Fear plays a very interesting role in our lives. In many ways, fear can be a crippling experience that effectively pushes the pause button on our progress forward. It can easily cause you to pull of the road for extended periods of time and freeze not being able to continue on the path forward. However, fear also serves the function of letting us know that we are about to move past our initial limitations. It signals growth to come. It signals opportunity. I have been struck by fear many times and left paralyzed in the clutches of its teeth unable to make movement forward despite knowing deep within that I can. Recently, after years of being trapped, I finally made movement forward through that…
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This moment means a lot to me. Let me explain. For many years, I followed the advice I was being given with promises of grand outcomes. However, these dreams never came to fruition no matter how much I relentlessly went after them. As you can imagine, that takes quit the toll on the soul. That makes you want to quit. As time went on, there was this intuitive pull that I had to let go of what I knew in order to become who I was meant to be. That’s when the answers started to show up. They were very, very different than anything I’ve ever heard. They had significant amounts of depth, made so much sense to me and felt like I finally…
Out of the many things my dad has taught me, the life lessons that go along with learning how to fish have been some of the most memorable. Ever since my first catch in Colorado at 3 years old wearing green dinosaur pajamas, I guess you can say that I’ve been hooked. For years, we have stood on the rocks of rivers together reading water, getting a feel for where fish were, celebrating when a “big one” was on the line, occasionally falling into the river and camping out under the stars amongst the trees. Here’s some of the little nuggets of wisdom he’s passed down to me. Be patient. All good things come in time. You may not catch something for hours on…
Courage, dear heart. These mountains will fall. I want to share something personal with you today. It’s something I say quite often to people who know me and they feel stuck in life. “Play to win. Don’t play to not lose.” Where did that even come from? I spent a lot of time in the past afraid to put it all on the line and chase after what I know I can be. Sometimes it would be 70%. Others 95%. But I would always hold something back. I would always keep something in reserve just in case it didn’t go “my way.” ⠀⠀I did this because there were a few times in my life where I did go all in and everything fell apart…
The other night I sat down on the couch to watch a movie and came across The Matrix (a movie I’ve seen probably 10 times) and know like the back of my hand. Or so I thought… I’ll spare you all the plot details, but something strange happened while I was watching. I heard something that I’ve never heard before. Morpheus looks at Neo and says, “There’s a difference between knowing the path and walking the path.” I sat there…stunned…like a sack of bricks had hit me. I had heard what I needed to hear at the perfect time. The Universe was speaking to me. There’s something about hearing the truth – the pure truth – and how it resonates deeply within your heart…
I’ve come too far to quit. I’ve come all this way and now have a chance to gain something that I may have never had. This one scene of my life continues to play over and over again in my head… “You mean to tell me there’s miracles?” Of course there are. It has been one very interesting road to get here. Thousands upon thousands of hours of learning and digging into areas of life that I never could have predicted. The answers were a bit strange. Not strange in the sense that they were bizarre and hard to understand. More strange in the way that they are so unbelievably potent but virtually unknown. I didn’t get here alone. Far from it. I got…
I need you to give me everything you’ve got. I need you to find that extra gear within yourself, to dig a little bit farther into your faith and to trust that this is the right path to travel. I need your undivided attention. Trust. Trust. Trust. Faith. Faith. Faith. This moment reminds me of three quotes that have always helped me move through times like this. “To each there comes in their lifetime a special moment when they are figuratively tapped on the shoulder and offered the chance to do a very special thing, unique to them and fitted to their talents. What a tragedy if that moment finds them unprepared or unqualified for that which could have been their finest hour.” –…
We are all capable of extraordinary things. In many ways, I can relate deeply to those who have lost their way. When I look back on my life, I can see so many moments of pain and suffering that really rocked me to my core. Don’t get me wrong, there have been many wonderful moments as well. I’m not disregarding that. But the truth is, in many different ways I haven’t been able to enjoy myself as much as I can now see I could have. Why didn’t I back then? Some things were chosen for me. Some things that I chose myself were based upon lies. Many of the avenues in which I tried to fix problems were false paths. The past couple…
I’ve never done this before. But that doesn’t mean I can’t see an outcome. Is it all of the outcomes that will come to be? No. But my head and heart are in a good place. It’s going to take consistency. It’s going to take patience. I’m going to have to listen to my wisdom in a way that I never have before. But it’s time. Truth is, it has been time for some time. But here we are – having arrived at my moment. I’ve reorganized my goals so that they aren’t centered around amounts of time passed but rather milestones achieved. This will keep me focused on the task at hand and connected to the present moment instead of falling into the…
The space between who you are and who you want to be is one of the most difficult transitions of all. You’re asking yourself to become something greater, to break out of the shell you’re currently in and that will test you down to your core. It’s no easy feat to elevate to the next level. It can be… Infuriating. Challenging. Maddening. Yet no matter how many times you fail at reaching it, it continues to call you over and over again. It shines a light on your half-efforts and demands proper admission – your best. Nothing short of that will do. To be completely honest, I’ve given this a lot less than my best. I allowed for excuses and procrastination to set in…
