I’ve been searching for context. As I’ve been navigating through the land of a thousand tomorrows, it was pretty easy to begin to look at everything that’s taken place with eyes of judgement. Heading down the path of breaking myself down, especially after everything that’s happened this past year, has been pretty easy. The Critic has been vicious at times. But even in all of that, I don’t know where I would be if I had just given up or even continued down the path I was on. Both of those options would have been disastrous. Even if I wasn’t ready to take on what I needed to, there’s a strange feeling in arriving to a place that you know will change the foundations…
finding the light
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This year was many things. Of course, nothing, and I mean nothing, happened the way I thought it was going to. I mean I don’t think anyone could have predicted what was going to go down. And while we are still in it, it seems like we are closer to the end of it all than the beginning. My foundations were stress-tested this year in ways that I never really knew were possible. Some areas I grew. Some areas I retracted. But all in all, I am still here standing strong and that’s what really matters in the end. The word “grace” kept on showing up over and over this year. While not all of it was “graceful” I think for the first time…
Life in its endless twists and turns brought you to this place – one that is uniquely fitted to who you are – with an opportunity to wipe the slate clean and to right so many wrongs that still call within your soul.There are things that happen in life that you would never ask for. You didn’t manifest them. You didn’t claim them for yourself. They came in out of nowhere and impacted your life on so many levels.And yet begin to understand the value that those moments bring. Even through the darkest of nights you can learn compassion, understanding, wisdom, trust and so many other valuable things.The price is heavy, but it’s worth it.But it goes beyond the experiences you have. Somewhere, deep…
Every step you’ve ever taken, the tragedies and victories you’ve experienced, the mistakes, the wins and losses, the courageous moves and wanderings through the unknown, have all brought you here.Here being this moment, as your eyes hit these words. Present. Pure. A endless amount of possibility. And in this brief moment we have together, I want you to remember something you’ve always known but at some point may have forgotten.What you’ve been seeking for so long is not out “there” in the world. It inside of you. You’ve been searching for something you’ve already had. That’s why you could never find it. You’ve been looking for your keys and they have been in your pocket the entire time. And you’ll hear many say that…
It’s going to take courage. It’s going to take everything you’ve got to finally let go of what you’ve been holding onto for so long. The hardest part of the journey is the first step – finally making that decision – and when you do everything begins to snap into place. Think about how much space has been taken up by what you’ve been holding onto. See how those memories or events have snuck their way into all different areas of your life. Look for not only the effects, but the ripple effects as well.Letting go isn’t about denying something’s existence. It happened. It really did. But it’s about beginning to rewrite the story. It’s about seeing something that happened from the eyes of…
There’s this Buddhist slogan that I love that goes – when things are going well, be patient, they’ll change. When things are going poorly, be patient, they’ll change.Everything, and I mean everything, is always shifting and changing. Things are either coming or going and it’s a process that we can’t stop. It’s a river that no matter what we do always carries us with it despite our best efforts. Many will try to dam up the river. Try to manipulate it, change it, move the rocks around within it or swim up stream. They will rage against it and do their best to try to force their will upon it. But in time, it always takes them to where it intended to go.Peace and…
In the end, that’s all that really matters. How did we impact the people around us and touch their lives in a positive way? Did we leave the ones who came across our path a little bit better off than we found them? Did we love our hearts out. Love hard. Get your heart broken. Laugh. Cry. Suffer. Explore. Wear your scars with pride. Allow life to teach you in its mysterious ways. Risk it all. Put your heart on the line. Fall down. Get back up no matter what. The only guarantee we have in life is that everything is going to change. So knowing that, you really should take that chance and go for it. Play to win. Don’t play to not…
What you have in front of you, right at this moment, is a blank piece of paper. What you write on that piece of paper depends entirely upon you. No one can write it for you. The pen isn’t going to magically move by itself.So knowing that, what do you want to write? How do you want this story to take place from this moment on? Do you want it to be filled with courage, love, compassion and joy? Or do you want it to be filled with bitterness, greed, resentment and self-pity?Yes, the pages of the past have been written and unfortunately you can’t go back and make physical edits. But that doesn’t mean that story is static. While the words may be…
A long time ago, I read a line by T.S. Eliot that sparked something deep within. He said, “Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go.” I immediately knew that whatever I had imagined didn’t even come close to how incredible things could be. For well over a year now, I’ve had this lingering pull within my intuition that I had to take a journey that would lead me on such a path. I’ve delayed and delayed again, but no matter how long I put it off it always came back to me relentlessly demanding my attention and commitment. I think in many ways that’s how you know your intuition is speaking. You can deny…
I hope you find the courage to take off the mask and live as you truly are. Let go of the fears, doubts, worries and judgements from the outside world and what they make think. This is about you and your journey of truth, love, compassion and wisdom. My teacher told me something a few years ago that I haven’t forgotten and remind people in my life of from time to time when they really need it. In fact, it has been one of the most profound lessons I’ve ever learned and I will pass it along to you today. She said, “You must remember the hierarchy. First, their is The Higher. What you believe in. It is the most important part…
