It’s interesting that as you continue on your path, you learn that it’s far more about letting go than adding on. It’s about dissolving stories, habits, patterns, rituals, relationships that don’t serve you. The result ends up being a new sense of joy and peace coming into your life. The more and more you let go of the more space you create for things you actually want to be there. My mentor once told me that there are two really simple but significant rules on growth and development. One, continue doing what you’ve been doing well. Two, stop doing what hasn’t been going so well. I laughed when I heard it. Not because I thought it was a joke but because of how sophisticated…
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When the lessons finally arrive, all you can really do is embrace the. Accept them as they are. They are messengers from an unfinished past. And if you can hold them, you’ll learn. My oh my you’ll learn. You were never meant to be perfect. This life you’re navigating through is messy and complicated just as you are. And that’s exactly how it’s meant to be. Balanced. So you can let go of trying to be anything but what you are. There will be things along the way you discover that you want to work on and begin to shift. But you make those choices from a place of love and not judgement. You decide to change because you want to. Not because you…
To be with someone and be truly seen and heard is one of the greatest gifts of all. They understand on a deeper level what you’ve been through, who you are now and all you wish to become.They see the progression, the pain, the stories, the broken dreams, the will to fight on and the great ambitions that still exist. They understand you in a way that no words can describe. A true connection. You’re never done. There’s never a place that you reach when you are officially cooked. There’s always more to learn, understand, grow into and relearn. That’s the incredible thing about this journey. It’s never-ending. It’s always unfolding. So when you are being a bit hard on yourself for not being…
I had connected with who I really was, gained back my courage and confidence from that pesky wolf of fear and for the first time in a long time, things were going very well. I was tackling a lot of challenges, making some good progress on my goals and dreams and I was ecstatic about moving forward. Off in the distance I could see everything I had ever wanted. My potential was right there and like Ricky Bobby In Taledega Nights I stepped on that gas pedal. And…WHAM! I got blindsided by life and knocked flat on my back. What happened? I started failing over and over again just in a different ways this time. WHYYYYYYYY?!This was driving me absolutely crazy. I was at…
My internal dialogue used to sound a lot like the following when dealing with my problems. “Run! Sweep it under the rug. Deal with it later. Just forget about it.” When I was going through the mud, that was life for me. I just ran. I ran from everything, especially if it had some negative feelings attached to it. My emotions were all over the place. I overthought things like it was my job and I was a human avalanche just waiting to happen because of all the stress. I was constantly living in a place of fear. All I wanted was to just get out of this nightmarish groundhogs day, but I was so scared of failing and putting myself out there that…
A handful of years into my new journey, despite some early success, I was getting my butt kicked. I hit some pretty bad rough patches and got stuck in this place that I couldn’t get out of. I felt trapped. There was an endless cycle of setting big goals, followed by short bursts of perfectionism which were then ultimately sabotaged by paralyzing fear. Then, I would start the process all over again hoping for a different result. I’m not exaggerating when I say that this loop went on thousands of different times. I knew I was in a trap but I didn’t know how to get out of it. I was following all the advice I was being given. Go to seminars, listen to…
What I’m about to tell you won’t be easy. What I can promise you though is that this practice, while challenging, will be one of the most worthwhile things you will ever take on in your life. And if you’re up for trying something new, keep reading on. The story you are telling yourself about what happened is far more powerful than the details of what happened. Tracking with me so far? It’s how you are viewing it that determines everything.The greatest shift you can possibly make is moving from judgement to compassion. Judgement is like a thick molasses that causes you to stick to fear, doubt, worry, depression etc. and just makes everything worse. It’s a trap. It magnifies the events of life…
The greatest challenge I’ve ever faced in my life was beginning to believe in myself after I felt like all had been lost. When you lose faith and trust in yourself and everything around you, things begin to look pretty dark. It can feel like there’s no one who understands where you’re at and can possibly help you through the mud you’re in. If you’re in this place right now, I want you to hear what I’m about to say next.No matter how bad it gets, deep within you lives a light that cannot be extinguished. Some call it hope. Others call it courage. I think it may be different for everyone. But for me, it was resilience. It has always been there and…
You never know how long you will be walking the path with someone. Life has its own plans and no matter how much we try to look to the future and predict what’s going to happen, it’s all still a huge unknown.But don’t let the constant coming and going of things make you fear what’s around the bend. Because all of the things in your life at one point in time were unknown to you. All of the wonderful moments you have lived were once just around the bend and you just didn’t know it yet. So see it all through the eyes of possibility. Know that what could be…could turn out to be far more than you have ever imagined. And then look…
You’ll know. Trust me, when that moment comes, the feeling is unmistakable. The mind is constantly trying to figure out where or where. Release that. Let it go. Trust yourself. Faith is a very personal conversation for pretty much everyone. As the years have gone on, I’ve had some significant events happen to me where I first completely lost my faith but then it came roaring back. It was hard to deny what I saw and experience. Those stories are for another day. But what I was left with was this – no matter how dark things may get, you can never forget that you are a light. I think we forget that at times. We look to find something outside of ourselves, but…
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