Evan Sanders
a human being unfolding
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Evan Sanders
Evan Sanders
Not everything that comes back around is meant to stay in your life. We attract all sorts of different things. Not all of them have your best interests in mind. So it becomes incredibly important to learn how to say “no.”Strong. Healthy. Boundaries.We aren’t looking to build walls. Walls, while they do keep things out quite well, also tend to trap things in. When you try to block out fear, doubt, worry, anxiety etc. you only suppress your compassion, joy, courage and other wonderful qualities as well.Instead, think of healthy boundaries like a big golden protective net.The net’s holes are big enough to let things in that are meant to be there and yet they are small enough to catch what’s meant to be…
You’re going to meet people who will change your life forever. Some are there for years, a few for a lifetime and many for what seems like just a flash. But everyone changes you in some way. They are all pieces of who you are and who you will become. Then, there are the rarest of few, who stick with you no matter what you’re going through in life. The ups. The downs. Everything in between. They just show up over and over and over again. And because they do, those relationships continue to grow and deepen. When you let go of the idea that you fully “know” someone, you give yourself the opportunity to learn about them each and every day. Because honestly,…
You never get “there.” There’s no island where it all turns out. Rather, you’re a constantly unfolding being always learning and growing.Always in the act of becoming. A beautiful work in progress.A soul with boundless potential.Imagine a lotus unfolding endlessly layer after layer after layer. It never ends. It just continues on and on. Each layer you arrive at a new stage of depth where you come to an understanding. And then the next layer unfolds, you begin again, and arrive at a place of depth and wisdom in time.You have absolutely no idea of just how much you are capable of. It goes beyond what your mind could “see.”Why limit yourself then? You only “know what you know.” But that’s for right now.…
Closure is a pretty interesting thing. Sometimes we think we need closure from someone or a situation because that will be the thing that really helps us move on. But it’s not always the case. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen someone seek out closure and it actually got worse. The person who they went to didn’t show up in a way that would allow for any healing to happen. Sometimes the wound even gets opened back up and there’s a sense of regret for even going down that path in the first place. They might not even know why they did something. Seriously. Or even if they told you, it might not even be the truth. It really takes a…
You’re not lost. You’re finding your way. Every step, every movement, every decision and every breath is part of the path. The ups and downs. The contractions. The expansions. It is all part of learning to find your way. It’s all part of the road you are supposed to travel. Once you start letting go of the old ways of doing things some pretty interesting things start to happen. You come into full contact with the present moment, release yourself from the present and the future and all there is…is here. The past seems like a collection of distant memories in a shoe box somewhere and the future just becomes a succession of “nows.” Now. Now. Now. Now. Brick by brick. Ripple by ripple.…
The greatest challenge you will ever face is beginning to believe in yourself again after you feel like all has been lost.When you lose faith and trust in yourself and everything around you, things begin to look pretty dark. It can feel like there’s no one who understands where you’re at and can possibly help you through the mud you’re in.If you’re in this place right now, I want you to hear what I’m about to say next.No matter how bad it gets, deep within you lives a light that cannot be extinguished. Some call it hope. Others call it courage. I think it may be different for everyone. But for me, it was resilience. It has always been there and no matter what…
It’s not so much about what you think. It’s more about what you “know.” What exists deep within your bones? What do you know to be true – a wisdom that cannot be taken from you?Those whispers will guide you. They will take you in the right direction – the places you’ve always needed to go.But if you think about it, you are already heading off path. It’s not going to make sense to your mind – it lives far outside of that.That intuition, that wisdom, doesn’t live in the head – rather it arises from the bottom of the ocean and pops like a bubble once it reaches the surface. Then, you just know. You know without a doubt.It’s not always easy to…
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