Today, a huge story shifted for me. One that when I really sit back and think about it, it’s going to change many different things. I was talking with my dad on the phone about how I was having difficulty with stepping back from this mindset that was demanding everything be as close to perfection as possible. In having worked with this in the past, I know that ultimately perfectionism is the enemy of done and I’ve done a pretty decent job in making progress on what I wanted to dig into. But with new things I was trying to accomplish, there was this mindset that kept on coming back in that would constantly throw me off course or stall my movement forward. He…
a man chasing dreams
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There’s no turning back now. In this moment, as my feet hit the ground and I take my first steps towards manifesting a dream that has existed for most of my life, I’m reminded of that old Morpheus quote from The Matrix. “There’s a difference between knowing the path, and walking the path.” For a couple of years, I’ve known the path. I’ve studied, learned, practiced and even from time to time really started to run on it. But I always returned back. Coming back to this place over and over again was never where I was meant to stay. I arrived here because of a series of circumstances playing themselves out in a way where I eventually became trapped in a cycle (self-perpetuated…
“To each there comes in their lifetime a special moment when they are figuratively tapped on the shoulder and offered the chance to do a very special thing, unique to them and fitted to their talents. What a tragedy if that moment finds them unprepared or unqualified for that which could have been their finest hour.” – Winston Churchill Life in its endless twists and turns brought me to this place – one that is uniquely fitted to my talents – with an opportunity to wipe the slate clean and to right so many wrongs that still call within my soul. I didn’t ask for a lot of what happened in my life. I didn’t manifest it. I didn’t claim it. No one ever…
The decision to face your deepest of fears is amongst the most courageous decisions you can possibly make and yet present the most challenging of circumstances. On one hand, the monumental will it takes to finally turn and face the darkness is to be celebrated in of itself. But the journey doesn’t end there. That’s only where it begins. What comes after that moment is where each of us are truly defined in our ability to light a once opaque path – holding onto our faith as much as possible – and move through whatever comes our way. The bog of failures and missteps will be endless. Fear, doubt and worry will rush in at any possible chance. The temptations will try to tear…
Every once in a great while we are given a unique opportunity to rise to the best versions of ourselves and embark upon a path of discovering who we really are. If we find the courage within ourselves to step forward and answer the call, we begin a process of such infinite change that predicting exactly where we will end up becomes impossible. All we know is that who we will become is closer to our true nature. These paths that exist in front of us come at a great cost. Sacrifices will need to be made. And usually, those sacrifices come at the cost of letting go of old ways of showing up in the world. In order to cross through the threshold…
“To each there comes in their lifetime a special moment when they are figuratively tapped on the shoulder and offered the chance to do a very special thing, unique to them and fitted to their talents. What a tragedy if that moment finds them unprepared or unqualified for that which could have been their finest hour.” – Winston Churchill Last night, I had the strangest of dreams. I was walking in a neighborhood with houses on both sides, snow was pouring down and everything was completely whited out. Then, out of nowhere, a massive snake that must have been twenty feet long and foot thick started chasing me. I ran. It was destroying everything behind me. Getting closer and closer ready to devour me.…
Through the greatest of sacrifices we open the gates of possibility – witness a version of ourselves greater than we are now – and begin to embody the true essence of our spirit. We become who we are meant to be. And for the first time in our lives, the images of who we thought we were begin to shatter and disappear back into the ether. For thousands of days, I have sat down at my desk to transcribe the whispers of my soul. When I found the courage, I would write about the great tragedies and victories of my life, express my dreams and try my best to come to an understanding of how lost I felt at times. What came out was…
It took me a long to to get to the place where I could do this. It took me thousands of failures, a rollercoaster of up and down moments, many false starts and an equal amount of recommitments. But I’m finally doing it. I’m finally locked in. I don’t know if this is the way it is for everybody, but I find the first week of starting a new journey particularly difficult. It’s like the mind has so much momentum of living in the past ways of being that when you try to start heading in a different direction, there’s this undertow that tries to rip you back. But once you get through that phase, and for me it’s usually about one week, it…
What’s Coming Will Come And We’ll Meet It When It Does
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Posted on February 14, 2020
Courage to me was never about feeling completely fearless. It’s always been about looking my fears dead in the face and continuing forward no matter what. I have lost countless times on this journey. The tally marks are well stacked up in the losing column and would probably be overwhelming to look at if I tried. But I have had some wins. Big ones. And, in life’s mysterious ways, some moments that were actually supposed to be wins turned out to be crushing losses. Those are a bit harder to stomach. But when I look at all of it in total, I am reminded of my favorite speech my Theodore Roosevelt once again. I would rather be defeated endlessly than to give up trying…
Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go. – T.S. Eliot Everything in my heart tells me I can do this. Everything. I’m not going to spend my time here writing about what I think will happen – that’s reserved for the journey ahead. But what I will do is write about what this means to me and the messages I’ve been receiving for some time now. Whenever fear is present, especially when it comes to walking upon untraveled paths, there’s something special that’s about to happen. Sometimes that fear gets the best of us and we stall or take a step back. But the funny thing is, no matter how long you’ve prevented yourself…
