We are all capable of extraordinary things.

In many ways, I can relate deeply to those who have lost their way.

When I look back on my life, I can see so many moments of pain and suffering that really rocked me to my core. Don’t get me wrong, there have been many wonderful moments as well. I’m not disregarding that. But the truth is, in many different ways I haven’t been able to enjoy myself as much as I can now see I could have.

Why didn’t I back then?

Some things were chosen for me.

Some things that I chose myself were based upon lies.

Many of the avenues in which I tried to fix problems were false paths.

The past couple of years have been enlightening to say the least. I’ve learned so much in such a short amount of time and wouldn’t change any part of it.

But all of this learning has left me with a unique challenge.

When you start to wake up, you first see the contrast between the old way of doing things and the path you are being shown to travel. It’s incredibly encouraging to “know” what exists for you if you head in a different direction.

But when it comes down to it, the great challenge is actually going through with it all the way.

And for me, that involves letting go of a handful of things in my life that a massive part of my old story is built upon.

Truth is, that’s scary.

Even though I can see how exciting it is to get to the other side of the river, I still have to cross the deep unknown waters in front of me and have the faith that it’s all going to be okay.

“All the way” I keep telling myself over and over again.

You can’t give it 80%…90%…or even 98%.

You have to let go all the way or else you’re still holding onto that old rope. That, in itself, is enough to keep you stuck in the same place.

Imagine this – you spend an entire lifetime walking a specific path (one that you did your best with) and then learn you need to disinvest in that path and start on another.

While that new path actually offers you what you really want, you do have a bit of “escalation of commitment” where it becomes increasingly hard to swallow the fact that you need to move everything into another life portfolio.

So that’s what I’ve been struggling with.

That’s what I’ve been working on.

Every level that you reach demands a new level of commitment. I’ve been through many so far, but this one (as all have seemed at one point in time) is really giving me a run for my money.

To reach that new level of commitment, you’re going to have to go through season after season of failure. If you see those mistakes in a productive way, you start learning more and more about how to “not do things” which takes you closer and closer to your end going.

Now, here I am, on the precipice of actually making this happen for myself. There’s fear present. No doubt about that. But there’s also courage. There’s the faith and belief that if I have enough grace to move over and get out of my own way, that this will happen.

Not many people believe in miracles.

I do though.

I believe anything is possible.

Evan Sanders
The Better Man Project