No matter what, you have to protect your dream.

It’s inevitable…life is going to throw all sorts of things at you and test you in ways that will challenge you down to your core. But you can’t quit. This is your dream, and under no circumstance can you allow for anyone to take if from you, muddy it, cause you to doubt it, abandon it, or destroy it. It’s a gift from the heavens and demands your blood, sweat and tears. But more than that, it calls for your commitment.

Life’s been testing me lately.

The storm has been gaining strength and I’ve had to do everything to dig in and just stay planted. Unexpected circumstances, changes and tests have reawaken that side of me that loves to get into the dirt when things get hard.

You either allow yourself to rise to the occasion or fall to pieces.

But that’s your choice. That choice is made in the way that you view what is happening in front of you. If you see it as your demise and everything is falling apart, that is certainly what you will get. If you see it as your greatest opportunity to rise and become more…you will step up in ways that are good and healthy for you because of the pressure.

There have been many times that I have told myself that I refuse to allow myself to complain, wine, mope and feel bad for what’s happening. I refuse it. No. I will not do that under any circumstance. Instead, I will regroup and head straight forward with my new plan.

Because if you keep holding onto the old plan, you’re going to be stuck there forever. But if you step up and create a new plan with what you have instead of focusing on what you don’t have, you become a very very different version of yourself.

So I’m generating a new plan, not wasting any time whatsoever, and moving forward relentlessly.

Drop all of the questions of “why?” as well. Forget the why is this happening, why me, and all other questions associated with why. That can land you in a mental prison as well. Because the longer and longer you stick around asking those questions the less and less you are actually spending time really doing something about your situation.

So for me, I know that I have to spend 0 time in that area and just stand in what’s possible. What are my options? How can I make this work for me? How can I move ahead and not miss a beat?

I’m making a choice.

A conscious choice.

One that involves me stepping into the best version of myself and refusing to sink down into misery. I’m going to make this work for me. I’m going to rise to the challenge.

Evan Sanders
The Better Man Project