There comes a time that each of us must answer a calling to push all their chips into the pot and put it all on the line. What eventually happens however is that this calling comes when we are not ready, when our integrity is still lacking, and we are exposed when the light comes. Of course, all of us are fallible, but when we answer this calling, we have to be fully committed. Like I always say in the morning…who are you going to be today? Most of my days, I answer, “Two cheeks on the line.”

For the past week or so, I have been gearing up for an event that will significantly alter the course of my life. In 12 days, I will publish my first book…something that I am so proud of and ready to put out to the world. In the time I have had while my editor is doing her final read-through, I have been looking inward…focusing on writing…and checking the spokes on my integrity wheel. This process has made me consider things that I had never really looked at before. And it has allowed me to identify things that I need to continue working on and making stronger. But today is my testament to a reality that I am ready to answer…I am finally ready to go all in…total commitment to many things that have been on my mind for the past few months.

I had a really interesting talk with one of my friends tonight about the phrase “coming to conclusions.” I put forward the idea that when it comes to coming to conclusions about people, things, events…we often take away our ability to further analyze life. When we decide that things are the way they are and that is final…no more learning can be done. I, instead, like to view it all as if I know nothing. I can learn from the smallest things…and instead of just knowing a whole lot of stuff…I take it to the next level and apply it immediately…allowing myself to gain wisdom through application…not just book knowledge.

A lot of people enjoy being dead. But they are not dead, really. They’re just backing away from life. *Reach* out. Take a *chance*. Get *hurt* even. But play as well as you can. Go team, go! Give me an L. Give me an I. Give me a V. Give me an E. L-I-V-E. LIVE! Otherwise, you got nothing to talk about in the locker room.

– Harold and Maude

You are going to get hurt, but you have to remember…the brighter the light the darker the shadow. Things are going to fall apart, split at the seems, tear into pieces…but you have to realize that this is just part of the building process. A long time ago, I wrote a piece called Break to Build. Renovations must be done all the time to improve the structure, the furnishings, the walls…and anything else in between. As life changes, you must also adapt and adjust. Don’t be afraid to put on your construction hat and get to work.

I am not the better man…I am just a man. But I do realize that I have a unique frame of mind…and that is I have a passion for life and everything it throws at me…good and bad. Combine that with my desire to turn darkness into light…and here I am, 377 posts later, years later, writing my heart out every single day. I know what fear tastes like, in fact, it has a distinct draw. But I remember how sweet it tastes to decide your path and take it. Choose yours.

Evan Sanders
The Better Man Project