I am glad I picked I picked up the most recent issue of Esquire today…one of the magazines I eventually want to write for. I came across a fantastic section of interviews…and was fortunate enough to find the quote above. I don’t think there has ever been a quote by someone else that has most accurately described what I have been going through the past three or so years. What many people do not know is that there is a significant story that will be told in the launch of the book that hasn’t been seen here. Back then, it was the farthest thing from what is being viewed by many during these present days. Very very dark days. But like Patinkin said, there is a urge to turn that darkness into light. Moreover, to bring light into the deepest caves of our lives and expose them for what they are.

So I closed the magazine after I read this…and just sat there in the plane thinking about this idea. I was given a little nugget of wisdom by a friend years ago that life must always be equal, and that when the sun comes up, it also must go down. I feel like many struggle with this idea and expect it to be sunny all the time. However, once you can start grasping onto the idea that there is a natural up and down of life…you can start looking deeper into how do we continue moving forward even during the dark times. We must learn to steer our ship by the stars. Because the stars are there for a reason. No matter how dark the night, the stars give you the ability to stay on course.

Just because things get dark does not mean that you have to stop what you are doing. Trust me, even during the past 6 months where I decided to go after a dream of publishing my first book, there were many ups and downs. There were chunks of time where I was incredibly lonely (the bi-product of sacrificing hang out time for working) and things got very very quiet. But, despite how much time I had to myself, I knew that I just had to keep going…and eventually I came out back into the light.

We never know how long the sun will stay up or how long it will stay down in our lives… But it will always perform this cycle.

Evan Sanders
The Better Man Project