It has been an interesting few years to say the least. There have been many many challenges across the board (too many to list) and even more changes. But I want to talk about something important that’s emerged from it all – acceptance. Acceptance is a very interesting word. As time as gone on, I’ve really understood acceptance to be many different things. Ownership. Responsibility. Alignment. Fluidity. There are many other words I would use to describe it. But most of all, I’ve viewed acceptance as a deep embracing of things as they are. I also know what acceptance isn’t. It isn’t what I thought life should be. That gap can be very difficult to traverse sometimes. There’s an incredible amount of friction that’s…
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I wanted to dig into the topic of self-awareness because it’s one of those absolutely crucial things that help us move forward in life. A lot of people talk about how you need to be self-aware but everyone lands on the same question…how? How do you actually build and develop that skill? That’s what I want to break down simply for you today and give you some things that you can use. First, let’s get a general definition of self-awareness. Self-awareness is understanding of what is taking place in your experience. Thoughts, feelings, actions, way of being. It’s about understanding how you are showing up in the world and what’s taking place in your experience. Now why do we need to develop this (besides…
When you have faith that the right things will be in your life and show up as they are designed to, then all of the fear of what might leave begins to disappear. As with all things, they are meant to come and go. But we love to hold on. We love to grip everything so tight even to the point of sometimes not giving it enough freedom. Relax your grip. Breathe. The things that are meant for you will be there. This has been one of the greatest lessons I have ever learned (and am still learning every single day). I used to be at war with life. I had such a hard time with “going with the flow.” I figured that if…
Do it for “you.” Do it because it’s going to make you proud. Do it because it resonates with your soul. That’s when you’re going to find so much joy and happiness when you finally cross the finish line of whatever you’ve set out to do. The problem is so many people attach their sense of self worth to the opinions, approval and judgements of those who are around them or who they don’t even know. When you do that, you’re going to be in for very rocky ride because everything in the outside world is constantly shifting and changing. People can’t even decide what they want on a menu let alone give you a deeply thoughtful, compassionate, and well delivered take on what…
Is it possible to turn straw into gold? Yes. Yes it is. But it’s a process and it takes quite a bit of time. And you’re going to need a whole lot of love, understanding, wisdom and a light heart on your journey to get there. The greatest shift you will ever make is letting go of wisdom and moving towards compassion. When you do this, you turn on the light. When you’re constantly judging everything that’s happened or happening in life, you’re trapped. There’s no visible way through because you’re at war with how things are. But when you let go of all the judgement and start to view life through much gentler eyes, you see that even though…
It’s in the risk. That’s where you grow. There’s no doubt that it feels fantastic when you finally achieve something. But that’s not where the souls gold is. It’s in who you become during that process that matters more than anything. Embrace that. Know it deeply. If everything works out then great! If you try and fail, that’s ok too. It’s part of the process. Keep going because you’re growing. Failure is just feedback. That’s all. Don’t take it so hard it’s showing you that you need to go in a different direction. But the journey, that’s where the magic is. Whenever I’m going through the thick of it and really losing my motivation to carry forward, I always think of Theodore Roosevelt’s famous…
Let go. Let go. Let go. The whisper that’s been trying to teach me throughout my entire life. It’s always been that message. The same lesson, over and over again, in a thousand different ways. I started writing back when I was 19 and it helped me process everything I was going through. I started to let go and little by little things changed. But then, I ran to the future instead. Maybe if I lived in the world of dreams and what could be I would be happier? Wrong again. The voice cams back. I learned that you could suffer from living in the future just as much as living in the past. It doesn’t matter if it’s painted with possibility, there’s still…
Courage is not about being completely fearless. It’s about feeling fear and moving forward anyway. You’re never going to feel 100% ready. That moment will never arrive. You will never reach a place where you feel completely comfortable as the planets and stars align. The perfect moment will never arrive. Never. So instead, begin. Begin your journey wherever you are. This moment is as good as any. The thing you don’t want to run into is spending an entire lifetime waiting for that perfect moment and to be stuck idling in place. If you’ve found yourself delaying for days, years or decades, begin now. The important part is that you actually start. Then, you can learn from all that procrastination. Every step you…
These dreams you have exist for a reason. They are whispers coming from the soul speaking of potential, possibility and growth. Honor them. Listen to them. Create them. Step fully into them. The path you travel will never be completely clear. Waiting until you’re fully ready to throw yourself into it sets you up to never actually go for it. Trust me, I’ve spent more time than you can imagine waiting for the right moment for it only to never come. The truth is, you’re never going to feel completely ready. You’re never going to feel like you’ve got everything figured out. But you’re not supposed to. There’s so many elements of the future that you could never predict and only will be able…
I believe that no matter where your journey has taken you or how lost you might feel, you can always find your way to the path you were meant to travel. Mine, when I look back on it so far, has had its many wild twists and turns. I’ve lost my footing a handful of times. I’ve walked in directions I knew I shouldn’t have. I’ve experienced the darkest of darks to the brightest of lights. And oh I struggled. Deeply. Like that soul wrenching struggle that squeezes the air out of your lungs. I’ve raged against what had come to be. I’ve battled currents I couldn’t overrun. I’ve given up completely and been swept downstream by fear. I’ve suffered at…