Because reaching it isn’t the point. It’s never been the point. As you grow, become wiser, learn, deepen, expand…that version that you see, it will always just be beyond your reach. And what a gift that is. That you can always have something to move towards. To learn from. To grow with. As you become that version, you end up so much farther along than you ever could have imagined. Then, it moves again, and again, and again. We are all human (news flash). With that, come deficiencies, mistakes, old patterns, bad habits, flaws and the rest of the works. Embrace them but then get to work. Forget all the judgement that serves absolutely no purpose. Rather, see them for what they are and…
the story of a human being unfolding
Posts by Evan Sanders
…and that’s where it all happens. It all starts to unfold once you answer the call that’s been ringing for so long. Maybe you were scared of the journey in front of you so you delayed for as long as you could. But honestly, who hasn’t? Who hasn’t denied themselves from moving forward because of fear? Who hasn’t limited themselves because of events that happened in the past? Surely everyone has. But you don’t have to stay there. You don’t have to allow the events that have unfolded in the past to control the decisions that you make right now. You can see them in a new light. You can begin to heal those old wounds. And eventually, you can gather up the courage…
Every step you’ve ever taken, the tragedies and victories you’ve experienced, the mistakes, the wins and losses, the courageous moves and wanderings through the unknown, have all brought you here. Here being this moment, as your eyes hit these words. Present. Pure. A endless amount of possibility. And in this brief moment we have together, I want you to remember something you’ve always known but at some point may have forgotten. What you’ve been seeking for so long is not out “there” in the world. It inside of you. You’ve been searching for something you’ve already had. That’s why you could never find it. You’ve been looking for your keys and they have been in your pocket the entire time. And you’ll hear many…
The best people are the ones that stay. Everything is always changing. Things are always coming and going and we don’t really have much control over the point in time the path runs out. It just suddenly arrives and we can only see that when it’s here. But then there are the rare and special few who ride with you all the way until the end. Who make you a better version of yourself, help you regain faith in who you are when you feel lost and who stand with you when you are going through hell and high water. They’re just different. To feel like someone has “got you” no matter what happens is one of the best feelings in the world. Because…
I hope you find the courage to live as you truly are. Let go of the fears, doubts, worries and judgements from the outside world and what they make think. This is about you and your journey of truth, love, compassion and wisdom. My teacher told me something a few years ago that I haven’t forgotten and remind people in my life of from time to time when they really need it. In fact, it has been one of the most profound lessons I’ve ever learned and I will pass it along to you today. She said, “You must remember the hierarchy. First, there is The Higher. What you believe in. It is the most important part of the hierarchy. Then, there is The…
I’ll never forget one of the lessons my teacher shared with our class the last day of coaching school. He said, “You want to know what 10 years of studying with monks really taught me?” Of course were are all interested. Who wouldn’t be? Everyone responded back with a resounding “yes!” “Life’s hard enough. Don’t make it worse.” Learning to love the things that come across your path is a challenging task to say the least. Life’s not all sprinkles and rainbows. There are really tragic and difficult situations that face just about everyone and they strain the soul. You don’t have to like what happened. Shoot I don’t even blame you at all if you have the desire to hate it. I can…
You’re not lost. You’re finding your way. Every step, every movement, every decision and every breath is part of the path. The ups and downs. The contractions. The expansions. It is all part of learning to find your way. It’s all part of the road you are supposed to travel. Once you start letting go of the old ways of doing things some pretty interesting things start to happen. You come into full contact with the present moment, release yourself from the present and the future and all there is…is here. The past seems like a collection of distant memories in a shoe box somewhere and the future just becomes a succession of “nows.” Now. Now. Now. Now. Brick by brick. Ripple by ripple.…
Every step you’ve taken has been part of the path. You never lost your way. You’ve only been “here.” There are no steps backwards. There’s no going back in time. You’ve only been finding your way – a perfect succession of “nows” over and over again. Every fall. Every mistake. Every victory and defeat. They have all led you here, to this place, waking up more and more as the days go by. How could you ever say that these things that happened – while maybe painful at times – were not meant to be if you are finding the gold that lays within them? They were what you needed to learn. To become. To shift and morph. So here you are. Awakening. Seeing.…
What do I need? What does the deepest wisest version of myself say? When you can answer that question (and the answers might change every day) you are at the essence of self-care. There’s a very common story that flies around in peoples heads (for many different reasons) that self-care = selfish. But they couldn’t be farther apart. Self-care is about nourishing the deepest elements of who you are to make sure you can show up to the best version of yourself. Selfishness at its core is about caring about yourself only. One doesn’t equal the other. When you can let go of the story that taking care of you is such a bad thing, you open yourself up to the possibility of finally…
You are not deficient. You are not lacking. You are not a piece or a part of a soul. You are not a victim. Let me repeat the last one – you are not a victim. At one point in time you may have thought that, but not now. No longer. You have what you need. You have more than enough. You are whole. You are healing, moving forward, and taking the lead role in how the rest of the story is written. It’s easy to find yourself in the clutches of fear. If you let it settle in for too long, it will begin to crawl into all areas of your life. One day you go outside and look at the garden and…