8 years ago I sat down on my bed with my face in my hands wondering what the hell I was going to do with my life.
I had just lost my greatest love (baseball) due to injury, my life was an absolute mess, I was plagued by a low self-esteem that prevented me from believing I had any real potential, I lacked inner vision and was completely consumed by my past.
Truly, I was in a dark place.
I was definitely a complete mess.
In fact, I describe that time period of my life as an emotional tornado. Sounds great right?!
I pretty much destroyed everything in my path and most of the good relationships had.
Then, something clicked.
I was being called to write…
Back then, I didn’t know that starting to write my thoughts, feelings, and events going on in my life would yield a lifetime commitment to personal development, the launching of a life coaching practice, a community of over 100,000 people and thousands of blog posts. Back then, I was just trying to gasp for air and felt that writing would be the way to do that.
I am an avid fisherman, a lover of all sports, aspiring to be the next American novelist, a rock climber, a social media nerd, an inventor, obsessed with personal development, a reader of all genres, a collector of baseball cards, a developing bodybuilder, an expert organizer, an entrepreneur, a brand builder, a long-boarder, a slight Romantic, sometimes an insufferable insomniac, a photographer, an almost drowning surfer, an ambidextrous bowler, a killer snowboarder, an on-call rapper, an explorer, a mildly successful car rebuilder, a reincarnated Robin Hood, a certified IKEA furniture maker, an amateur long-range rifle marksman, obsessed with Pawn Stars, an iron-fisted negotiator, a creative thinker, a hard worker, a roofer, a salesman, a Lego architect, a self-proclaimed painter, a creative landscaper, a Renaissance man, and a deep philosophical thinker. I am best at inspiring others to act and have taken that passion and transformed it into a successful blogging career. My blog is called The Better Man Project and is focused around my journey towards becoming a better man and the lessons I learn along the way. Check it out at thebettermanprojects.com. (Like I said, salesman.)
I have genetic entrepreneurial blood in my body and have followed my father’s footsteps in creating unique startup companies. I enjoy a good glass of scotch. I do not necessarily know where I am going, but I know who I am going to be when I get there. I am a man of unconditional love, fiery passion, and possess a never-quitting attitude. I never demand anything out of anyone that I do not demand of myself (honesty, loyalty, respect), and I strive every day to become a better person. I can grow a full beard and climb trees with ease…as long as the rope doesn’t break. I want to make a difference in this world and have people remember me as someone who went out with all engines burning. I will never own a mini-van…ever.
I will have a baseball team full of children…and do not think that will effect my decision on the mini-van statement. I will have a white wrap-around porch. I can reel in a 200-lb halibut in 30 minutes. Spiders scare the hell out of me, and bell peppers make me gag. I have successfully cooked Thanksgiving and Christmas dinner for 12 by myself. I can bake an assortment of pies and can make little children laugh. I have successfully rebuilt pitchers mounds, to only then wreck them by pitching off of them. I successfully speared a fly to the door by throwing a Phillips screwdriver from 10 ft. away. I am a quote junkie and will randomly recite movie lines or motivational speeches to people who care or care less about what I am currently saying.
I am a slight pyromaniac… and have a record of close calls. I collect vinyls, and wish I had a record player. I often come up with nicknames for those close to me, and they usually resemble animals. If I had to be two movie stars, it would either be Clint Eastwood or Morgan Freeman. If they had to be under 50, Brad Pitt or Denzel Washington. I can iron my own shirts, do my own laundry, vacuum and clean floors with unparalled precision. My music playlists demand respect. I speak Japanese.
I successfully discouraged packs of men from hitting on my sister in Europe…just by the sternness of my jaw. I have sold women’s yoga clothes, am part of the 500 club, and have broken many stereotypes about white men not being able to jump. I will be real with you no matter what, however I do have a tendency for witty remarks. I have been asked if I have bad days. I drink Guinness and whiskey, can pull off dance moves after stretching, and have been called a modern Churchill.
I am, 100%, me.