Because reaching it isn’t the point. It’s never been the point. As you grow, become wiser, learn, deepen, expand…that version that you see, it will always just be beyond your reach.

And what a gift that is. That you can always have something to move towards. To learn from. To grow with. As you become that version, you end up so much farther along than you ever could have imagined. Then, it moves again, and again, and again.

We are all human (news flash). With that, come deficiencies, mistakes, old patterns, bad habits, flaws and the rest of the works. Embrace them but then get to work. Forget all the judgement that serves absolutely no purpose. Rather, see them for what they are and start making the shifts you need to make.

You’re bound to repeat the past if you fail to see it for what it truly is. How you interpret those events is fully up to you. You can deny it if you want to. But as the old saying goes, “You can deny reality, but you can’t deny the consequences of denying reality.”

Keep on going after it. You will fall. You will sit in the mud from time to time. You might even just lay there not wanting to get back up because life has been exhausting. I understand that fully. Can’t tell you how many times I’ve been there myself.

But deep within you is a sense of resilience that always helps you get back up again. It’s worth going after that version of yourself that you can see just around the bend. It’s a challenge, but it’s worth it.

I can promise you that.

Evan Sanders
The Better Man Project