You are not deficient. You are not lacking. You are not a piece or a part of a soul. You are not a victim. Let me repeat the last one – you are not a victim.

At one point in time you may have thought that, but not now. No longer. You have what you need. You have more than enough. You are whole. You are healing, moving forward, and taking the lead role in how the rest of the story is written.

It’s easy to find yourself in the clutches of fear. If you let it settle in for too long, it will begin to crawl into all areas of your life. One day you go outside and look at the garden and see that it has been completely overrun by weeds. That’s how fear works…it’s consuming.

Roll up your sleeves.

If the garden is a mess, it’s time to start pulling. There’s no mind trick that erases habitual patterns and choices. There’s no slogan that dissolves fear on contact.

There’s only awareness and choices.

You first have to be able to see what are you doing. You have to be aware of it. You have to know whether or not it is helping you grow or holding you back. That’s half of the battle there.

Then, you need a new way. Imagine a way of showing up in the world that serves you. Now that you’ve imagined it, step into it. Do it. Try it out.

This is how your entire world changes. You have to be willing to take the chance of trying something new in order to grow into who you are meant to be. There’s no way around in.

The cycles will repeat themselves endlessly until you choose differently. This is where you have to realize that you have everything you need to be who you are meant to be. It’s staring at you right in the mirror.

You are the source. You are the solution. You’re it.

Evan Sanders
The Better Man Project