I wrote this when I was going through the thick of it. When everything feels like it’s swirling around you and you can’t find your footing, it’s really easy to get swept downstream in it all.

Be right here. Even if it’s in the mud.

Because if there wasn’t any mud, there couldn’t be a lotus.

You don’t have to escape what’s happening. That’s how you get swept away. Sit in it. Root yourself deep into the ground and just breathe.

All of it will pass. And for the things that need your input and attention, if you can find your breath in it all you’ll also have your wisdom.

You’re not lost.

You’re right here.

You’ve always been right here.

It doesn’t have to be your favorite place to be. You don’t have to pretend that you like what’s happening if you’re really going through it.

But you do need…you…to be here.


Willing to face it.

Willing to work through it.

Willing to accept your role in all of it.

And when you can do that, you’ll find your way through.

So be right here.

Here. Here. Here.

Here. Here.


Evan Sanders
The Better Man Project