When you have faith that the right things will be in your life and show up as they are designed to, then all of the fear of what might leave begins to disappear.

As with all things, they are meant to come and go.

But we love to hold on.

We love to grip everything so tight even to the point of sometimes not giving it enough freedom.

Relax your grip. Breathe. The things that are meant for you will be there.

This has been one of the greatest lessons I have ever learned (and am still learning every single day).

I used to be at war with life.

I had such a hard time with “going with the flow.”

I figured that if I just hiked upstream against the rivers will that I could just “make things happen.” But the problem was I couldn’t adjust when things inevitably ended and thought that the heavens themselves had something against me.

What I failed to see in those younger years is that things were leaving for a very good reason.

Of course it would hurt. Sometimes it hurt badly.

But every single time, something better came along.

Something that would teach me, help me grow, and put me on the right path. I know it can be hard to deal with the coming and going of things.

It can be difficult to understand. But if you hold onto your faith and trust in whatever you believe in, you’ll be okay. In fact, you’ll be more than okay.

Keep that heart open. Never close off.

Heal your wounds and stay open to wonderful things happening.

When you lose your way, come back to who you know you are and what makes you…you.

Don’t ever forget where you came from.

One last thing.

Your mindset matters more than anything with this. If you see things coming and going as an indicator that you’re cursed and the universe is conspiring against you, you’re going to head down a pretty dark path.

Trust me on that one.

The truth?

There’s no big agenda against you I promise.

But if you see everything happening as part of the process, no matter how painful it may be at time, you’ll at least give yourself a chance to heal, learn and move forward.

Evan Sanders
The Better Man Project