
Do it for “you.”
Do it because it’s going to make you proud.
Do it because it resonates with your soul.
That’s when you’re going to find so much joy and happiness when you finally cross the finish line of whatever you’ve set out to do.
The problem is so many people attach their sense of self worth to the opinions, approval and judgements of those who are around them or who they don’t even know.
When you do that, you’re going to be in for very rocky ride because everything in the outside world is constantly shifting and changing.
People can’t even decide what they want on a menu let alone give you a deeply thoughtful, compassionate, and well delivered take on what you are doing. Everyone changes their minds on a whim.
There’s an old quote that I love and I’ll do my best to paraphrase it.
It goes, “if you build yourself upon the compliments of others you will most certainly fall upon the sword of their criticisms.” Isn’t that the truth of truths.
Remember that people’s judgements and criticisms are 100% free.
They are literally so cheap you can get them anywhere at anytime. I think if they cost a lost more than that – say $1,000 a piece – that people would be much more conscious of the criticisms they pass your way.
But as it stands now, they don’t cost anything, so don’t take it so hard when someone doesn’t like what you’re doing or what you’re about.
Their attention span is around 8 seconds anyway.
So knowing that, turn within.
Answer to yourself and to what you believe in. Always be willing to listen to those who are really trying to serve you, take criticism with a grain of salt, and check everything against your best of intentions.
If you whittle it all down to what resonates with your heart, you can hardly go wrong.
Evan Sanders
The Better Man Project