Oh and boy it’s going to cost you. 

Did you know that 98% of New Years Resolutions end up failing? 


But why is that? Why do so many people fail something that seems so important to them sometimes weeks or even days after they set out on a new journey?

Broken thinking.

Resolution-based thinking is completely broken and every single year countless people engage in something that is almost designed to have them fail in the first place.

Think about it for a minute (it’s ok we’ve all done this – ahem myself included)…how many times have you said to yourself, “Tomorrow is the day!” and then tomorrow came around and you went…

Ok…maybe tomorrow instead…time to go back to bed? 

I think all of us have. 

Our intentions are great but there’s something that doesn’t quite add up and when we really get down to the brass tacks we find something out incredibly interesting about ourselves…

(You might not want to hear this)

Our integrity…it’s crap. 

And that’s just the dead truth.

I’m not here to tuck those covers in for you so that you just dive right back into living another tomorrow-is-the-day-life. I’m here to help you grow and change the way you look at things so your world can actually change. 

There are no excuses

Not in this family. 

This is your dream you’re talking about here.

There’s a good chance that the goal you set for yourself is something that you’ve wanted for years. It’s something that you know would make a massive difference in your life if it became a big part of you. 

Knowing that, you need to take a very different route towards making it happen. 

Because the way you’ve been doing things…they haven’t been working. So let those go. 

And this all brings me to one of my favorite quotes of all time.

“There’s a difference between interest and commitment. When you’re interested in something, you do it only when it’s convenient. When you’re committed to something, you accept no excuses; only results.” – Kenneth Blanchard 

Before you even set your goal, you have to set an intention rooted in integrity

And what do I mean by setting your intention?

You have to have the type of attitude (with yourself) that says, “There is no way in hell that I do anything but try and try and try again at this until I achieve this. No matter what. I may fall, I may fail, I may lose, I may suffer, I may cry…but nothing will stop me and I sure as hell won’t be my own worst enemy. I won’t stop until this is over.”

That may take 10 days, that may take 10 weeks, that may take 10 years (took me 15 years for one vision).

But it’s all worth it in the long run.

You also must commit to the fact that the old ways of doing things are now dead and you have to invent new ways to become the person you’ve always wanted to be. 

Lastly, you have to know why you’re doing it. 

Why is this important to you?

If it’s going to get some girl or guy, I’ll tell you right now, you’re going to fail. If it’s to show off…you guessed it…failure. Any shallow “why” is going to land you right back where you were. 

But a why that resonates with your heart? Oh that’s the good stuff. 

A “why” that isn’t based in the rowing mentality from a previous lesson of trying to get to the land of “where it all turns out”… but a why that is an expression of DEEP PURPOSE…

One that will not only serve you, but will light up the hearts and minds of those around you…

A why that represents you down to the foundation of everything you stand for as a person…

When you find that, you will actually really go for it.  

But you have to have that why because when the going gets tough, and I guarantee you every single demon, reason to quit and challenge will come your way, you have to have something to hold onto that will get you through it all. 

If you can do that…

Dreams are possible. 

Action Steps For Today

Intention: To reconnect with your purpose and discover your “why.”

Practice: Find Your Why

Tonight, sit down with a pen and a piece of paper and brainstorm all of the reasons why you are going after your dream, vision, or goal. Make bubbles, boxes, anything you would like. Continue this process until you’ve filled the page up and have landed on a “why” that resonates deeply with you and serves as an expression of purpose. ​​​​​​​​

PS. If you’re feeling a bit “stuck” in life right now and looking for some help in navigating through your challenges, here at the 7 ways I can help you as a life coach www.1on1withevan.com