No one’s looking…

No one’s watching you or checking in on you to see what you’re doing. You’re alone. It’s dead quiet. 

And there you are…sitting, thinking, listening to the chatter going on inside your head. 

There’s a decision to be made.

A decision that you know you need to make and it’s calling for your attention. Maybe it’s a decision that you’ve been on the fence about for a long time or it’s something that you know you need to accomplish today.

Nevertheless, you need to make a choice. 

There’s a tendency when you’re in this place to push this off another day, another week, or even a month.

That happens when you continue to delay the decisions you know you need to make and while it may not have an immediate impact on your situation, it does have a consequence that is running underneath the surface…

A consequence that will undermine your actions in more ways than one…

And something that can absolutely ruin your life. 

Your integrity is suffering. 

We all have some sort of idea of what integrity means, and I’m not going to get into all the different definitions of the word that are out there, but I will whittle it down for you.

Integrity is doing exactly what you say you are going to do…

Especially, when you don’t have an audience. 

There are these little decisions that we need to make each and every day. You know, the small ones that we could get away with not deciding on right now. But making the decision of indecision is actually more detrimental than you think. 

It’s not really about the immediate effect, but rather the effect it has on your integrity with your word and who you believe yourself to be.

Because if you can’t keep your word to yourself, how are you going to keep it when you commit to another person?

How are you going to be in a relationship that is built on honesty when you can’t even be honest with yourself? 

You can’t.

If you are out of integrity…you are out of integrity. 

No excuses. No reasons. No justifications. You are just plain and simple not honoring your word or your intentions. 

That hurts yourself, that hurts others, and that hurts your dreams. 

I told you, I’m not here to sugarcoat your development. I’m here to give you the tools, skills, and provide the words and context you need to improve your life. 

When you are out of integrity with the small things…maybe that’s washing the dishes, cleaning your room, organizing your house…

How can you expect yourself to take care of the big stuff? 

You know the answer to this. 

So without our integrity…the bedrock of our existence in the world…we are living a million miles away from the person we know we can be. 

You have to get back into integrity with your word and with your intentions. Because if you don’t, you will continue to spin your wheel and beg anxiety, fear, doubt, insecurity, worry, and every other negative emotion to come into your life. You are creating a breeding ground for disease and pain by sabotaging your word. 

It has to end. 

It has to end now. 

Let’s get back on track. 

Action Steps For Today

Intention: To get back into integrity

Practice: How Am I Out Of Integrity?

In your journal, answer the question “How am I out of integrity?” This could be with your word, with an intention you have set, or a commitment to someone you have made. Identify all of the ways you are out of integrity. 

Now here’s the fun part. After you have identified the ways in which you are out of integrity, call one of your closest friends up and read off your list. Admit you have been out integrity with these situations and state exactly how you are going to get back into integrity. If you have been out of integrity in a relationship with someone, call them and admit your mistake and let them know how you are going to fix it.​​​​​​​

PS. If you’re feeling a bit “stuck” in life right now and looking for some help in navigating through your challenges, here at the 7 ways I can help you as a life coach