“Tell me about this plant here.” I looked at my teacher confused. I had no idea what this had to do with anything or how it was going to help me fix my problems. But…I played along. ⁠

Well, there’s the roots, the stem, the leaves and the flowers. I don’t know what you’re really getting at here and I definitely don’t how this going to help me? ⁠

She looked at me with a smile on her face and said, “Good. Now, can you stand over that flower and yell at it to make it grow faster?”⁠

Damn. I knew exactly what she was getting at. It hit me like a ton of bricks. I had fallen into the trap of always trying to get “there, there, there.” You know, make it to that island where it all turns out. The one that will make you happy when you finally get there.⁠

I looked at her and smiled. She knew I got it. I then looked at the plant, nodded, and went back to my desk with a far better sense of what I had to do. I needed to be “here.” I had to pull my mind back from always trying to get to this imaginary island that you really can’t ever get to when you see it for what it is.

don't rush it. be patient. the right things will come to you in their own time. evan sanders. the better man project. quote.

It can be pretty hard to trust the process and the unfolding of things. It can be even harder to be patient enough to see something through all the way to the end. But I can promise you this…⁠

If you allow yourself to connect with the journey you are on, embrace the moments in front of you and continue to learn about who you really are, the things that are meant for you will arrive. ⁠

I can’t tell you when. I can’t tell you how. But what I do know is that if you stay open to the possibilities of life and accept the fact that this truly is all a great mystery
you’ll go on one amazing ride. ⁠

You can’t yell at a flower to make it grow faster. You can only nurture it, love it, support it and embrace where it’s at during the natural course of things. Align yourself with where you’re truly at on your journey. Enjoy where you are. Of course there’s still room to grow. You’ll be doing that for the rest of your life. But when you can be “here” and truly connect with these moments, you’ll find the peace you’ve always been looking for.⁠


Evan Sanders