You can spend a lifetime looking back at the past – contemplating, wishing, dreading, reliving – but the fact of the matter is those moments have passed. They are gone. What’s leftover are just the movie reels from those moments in time.

And you can play them again and again. The good. The bad. The dark. With eyes of judgement we dig ourselves even deeper into those moments and the ripple effects they have had on our lives. With understanding we can find wisdom and compassion in the same moments that have challenged you down to your core.

But you have to come back. This is all you’ve got. What’s right here. What happened doesn’t matter anymore. It has been written. For better or for worse. But now…that’s still yours…over and over again. You can come back from anything. I’ve seen it over and over again. ⁠⁠

vulnerability is terrifying. the courage it takes to reveal your heart is one of the most frightening and yet rewarding experiences in life. In the end, it will set you free. evan sanders the better man project quote.

You are not the tragedies that have happened to you in your life. You are so much more than that.

It’s up to you to bring yourself back time and time again. To settle the mind. To listen to your spirit. To course correct as you learn to trust yourself more and more. You are your responsibility.

So write the story you’d be proud to read one day. Write a story about a hero coming back from the depths of despair. Write of teachers, guides, courage and determination. Write a story about grit. That no matter what came your way, no matter how badly you have fallen, that you persisted. You never quit. No circumstance was adequate enough to dim your light.⁠⁠

Don’t focus so much on letting go. Focus your intentions on coming back. Gently. With grace. “Back to this moment.” Breathe. As it has been said in so many different ways throughout time…be here now.⁠⁠

It’s all you’ve got.

Evan Sanders