It’s going to take courage. It’s going to take everything you’ve got to finally let go of what you’ve been holding onto for so long. The hardest part of the journey is the first step – finally making that decision – and when you do everything begins to snap into place. ⁠

Think about how much space has been taken up by what you’ve been holding onto. See how those memories or events have snuck their way into all different areas of your life. Look for not only the effects, but the ripple effects as well.⁠

Letting go isn’t about denying something’s existence. It happened. It really did. But it’s about beginning to rewrite the story. ⁠

It’s about seeing something that happened from the eyes of wisdom and compassion instead of fear, doubt and worry. When you see through the lens of negativity, it locks you even further into the past. The prison bars become stronger. ⁠

But when you shift the narrative by applying things like understanding, forgiveness, wisdom and truth…things start to shake loose. The very thing itself begins to loosen its grip on you and without much effort at all, you progressively let go. ⁠

and how brave you are for letting go of everything that's no longer for you. evan sanders, the better man project, quotes

It’s no small feat to head into what scares you, to old events and situations in life that you’d rather ignore, and to dig into doing the work. But as challenging as it may be, what’s on the other side is freedom, space, and new room to create. ⁠

Never forget that you are constantly creating and unfolding. If you don’t like the book you are reading, you’re the only one who has the power to change it. The pages are yours to do with. ⁠

Let go of the old to allow for the new. Come back to what is happening in this moment. Open yourself to possibilities instead of shutting down in fear. See that your life is canvas on which you can create anything you’d like. ⁠

And don’t forget to breathe.

Evan Sanders
The Better Man Project