The space between who you are and who you want to be is one of the most difficult transitions of all.

You’re asking yourself to become something greater, to break out of the shell you’re currently in and that will test you down to your core.

It’s no easy feat to elevate to the next level.

It can be…




Yet no matter how many times you fail at reaching it, it continues to call you over and over again. It shines a light on your half-efforts and demands proper admission – your best.

Nothing short of that will do.

To be completely honest, I’ve given this a lot less than my best.

I allowed for excuses and procrastination to set in and time and time again come up short. When I look in the mirror, I know there’s no one to blame but myself.

Half-assed efforts lead to half-assed results.

Somewhere, there is a bone in my body that loves to learn but gets scared and gives 70-80% of what’s required to make my goals and dreams happen. It’s like I lock up and worry about what will happen if everything goes wrong.

It’s not like I don’t have prior experience in “everything going wrong” as there have been a few significant moments in my life where things tragically fell to pieces.

But the deeper wiser version of me knows better. It knows that I cannot allow for those old events to determine future outcomes.

In many ways, I have.

I’m not afraid to admit that. I know that the only way to work to that next level is to take ownership of what landed me here.

I have to give more than this.

I’ve got to get back in flow.

I have to recommit to the things that I know are good for me.

I have to do what I’ve been shown and taught.

One of the biggest things that has been getting in my way is believing that I have to grind incredibly hard to get what I want. It’s actually the opposite. I have to end my war, put down the sword and shield and go with things and not against them.

Flow, not force.

It’s a change in mentality that’s been difficult to take on in a few areas of my life.

I can do this. I know I can. Like with all things in the past, it takes me many many tries to finally get right.

But isn’t that what this entire journey is about?

Becoming the best version of ourselves as time goes on?

I’m still committed to that.

So I’m going to dig in – deeper than I have before.

Into my roots I go.

Evan Sanders
The Better Man Project