It’s not about what you think…

It’s about what you know.

What do you know deep within your bones?

What do you know to be true — a wisdom that cannot be taken from you?

Those whispers will guide you home.

They will take you in the right direction — the places you’ve always needed to go.

But if you think about it, you are already heading off path.

It’s not going to make sense to your mind…it lives far outside of that.

That intuition, that wisdom, doesn’t live from the head down — it arises from the bottom of the ocean and pops once it reaches the surface.

Then, you know. You know without a doubt.

It’s not always easy to trust your gut. I know from a lifetime of going back and forth on decisions that this is definitely true for me. But I have to tell you…every time that I actually listened to my intuition, I never went wrong.

Did things happen the way I thought they were going to?

No of course not.

But it was never about that (I can see that now).

It was always about learning what I needed to in order to grow.

Of course I wish I could have avoided all the headaches and heartbreaks along the way, but when I look at it now, I see just how necessary those were in order for me to become the man I am today.

Without them, I would have the tiniest fraction of who I’ve become…and, honestly I wouldn’t trade those hard times out for anything.

I think if you spend your entire life avoiding hardship you are going to build a castle around yourself and learn nothing. Eventually, you are going to want to go out into the world and run the risk of getting hurt if the promise of adventure is there.

But I know what it’s like to be in that place — the place where you want to shut yourself off from the rest of the world and go into protection mode. That can be fine for a while if you need to regroup, but you really can’t let that become a habit.

What happens when you wall everything out to protect yourself from anything bad happening?

You wall your true self in.

You’re going to get hurt.

You’re going to suffer.

That’s a part of life.

The sooner you can accept that this is just how life is and that’s part of the playing field we all live on (I didn’t make the rules I promise) the less of a shock it becomes when it does happen.

You can deal with it better. You can handle the ups and downs with a little more grace.

You see, the problem with walls is that they cut you off from everything you were ever meant to become. Sure, they are reasonable, but you never ever start to scratch the surface of what could be.

That one line — what could be — is what has me so fascinated lately.

After being neck deep in this project for over 7+ years now, I have reached a place where I have never been more excited about what’s coming in the future.

Sure, there has been a lot of work that has been done, but I am seeing all of these projects come to fruition and I can hardly wait until they begin to bloom.

I think at times I forget just how much work and care it takes to give dreams the chance to bloom.

Is it work it?

Of course.

Are there times where I have wanted to quit?

Pretty much every single week.

But I just know deep within my bones that this moment in front of me is it.

I can feel it.

I sense it.

I just know it.

The mistake in the past is that I wanted to rush it.

Not this time — I’ve learned that lesson far too many times.

This time, I’m taking my time…waiting for that wave to peak at the perfect moment, and then I’m riding it all the way in.

Evan Sanders
The Better Man Project