I’ve never really given much though to the idea of staying in your magic until today.

There are millions of things out there that are trying to take you out of what makes you special. That can be life in general, people, events, situations, negativity…I mean the list is pretty much endless.

But as time has gone on, I’ve learned that you have to remember what makes you special and what makes you, well, you.

It’s easy to forget. It’s easy to let the situations of life make you think you’re far less than what you are. Someone grinding away at your confidence. A test going wrong. A relationship going south. I think you get the point. But I think what makes someone truly remarkable is their ability to take on life’s challenges and its shifts without losing their momentum.

I’m really making an effort to learn this lesson.

I’ve also learned some other things about myself over the past few months. One of the biggest ones is that I get majorly triggered when I feel misunderstood. When someone takes something I said or did with very good intention and it becomes something else, that really gets to me. In a few situations, this has become really apparent. So I’m doing my best to try to settle into the fact that I’m not always going to be understood correctly, but I can’t let someone else’s misunderstanding dig that far underneath my skin.

I get triggered…and it takes me out of putting good energy out into this world.

That’s all I want to do…and I’m trying to build my entire life around that idea.

I’ve thought a lot about the development of strong personal boundaries. Not in the way of creating walls in life, but rather big nets that allow the good things to come in and have some flex to catch the bad ones that could really do some damage. Walls tend to compartmentalize areas of life and can be pretty dangerous when they start numbing you in ways you didn’t expect.

But a good strong net, well, those can do the job right and still give you the flexibility to move with life.

I’ve had to say no to things that there were parts of me that were wanting to say yes. But it was my heart telling me no. More than ever have I been listening to that intuition and what’s inside of me. It’s the elements of my mind that try to convince me into things. And while I do rely on my mind to keep me sharp, learning, and moving forward in the business world etc…I know that the pie chart of what I “don’t know” is about 99% of all of it.

So this is where I rely on my intuition more than anything else.

What I can tell you is that I had to remind myself multiple times today to acknowledge what I’m up to (with the help of a wonderful friend), what my mission is in this world, and how much sitting back and letting whatever was throwing me off was a waste of my time. It was time to just let it go because I needed to move into a place of actually finding a solution.

So I did.

And everything else faded away.

Life can be pretty damn interesting at times.

Even thousands of blogs later, I’m still learning new things every single day. There’s no agenda. There’s no criteria for what gets written here. Just the honest truth about what’s actually happening in my life.

There are many more things that I could talk about tonight, but I think I will keep those close to the chest.

Stay in your magic.

It’s what makes you great.

Evan Sanders
The Better Man Project