My story this year, has been the wildest, craziest, and best chapter of my life.

That’s not to say that it didn’t come without significant challenges – I think that’s what makes each story beautiful. 

The ups and downs. The twists and turns. The tearing apart and the smashing back together. 

In fact, as far as stories go, the more depth they have the more intricacies exist. I don’t even know where to begin with telling the stories of this year, but I can tell you one. 

I walked into an experience last year. I don’t say an event, situation, or anything else of that nature…but experience…because I knew deep down in my heart that I wanted to become a professional life coach because it would give me the ability to help other people change their lives.

I knew that it would change mine as well…I just didn’t know how much. 

I mean, how could you ever know something like that. 

But what I discovered no this year long journey…a story that closes this weekend for me, is that life is pretty unbelievably perfect just the way it is. Thing is, most of the time we don’t have the patience to watch things bloom in the way they are meant to. Most of the time, we try to manufacture the experience instead of actually being in it.

I used to be someone who thought they could yank on a flower to make it grow faster. 

I think I figured out soon enough that this isn’t the case. And as I grew throughout this year, I learned two lessons that would change my life forever. 

Patience…coupled with intuition. 

As the months have gone on, I’ve settled more and more into a deep knowing that the timing of everything is perfect just the way it is. If I threw away my “should haves” I could show up in what was actually going on. I spent so much time in the past thinking “this should have or this shouldn’t have” and that robbed me of really being here.

And when I showed up here…my heart went wild. 

I was connected, and the experiences I was having were irreplaceable. 

So I slowed even more. I stopped trying to get there and just spent my time here. 

And as that happened…my intuition arrived. 

A deep feeling that within me of knowing things…just not knowing for sure yet. 

And as life would have it, when you trust your intuition and your patient enough to see if it is correct…you are given gifts. 

This happened for me…time and time again. 

But once, it really happened in a big way…and it forever made me a believer in what I knew inside. 

We get lost because we think we aren’t resourced enough, we aren’t good enough, or that we are deficient in some way. But when you really start looking at yourself, despite the mistakes you have made in the past, you can see that you were truly given everything you ever needed to live the type of life that your dreams create for you. 

This year has been a year of dreams coming true. The story of my 15 year journey to a moment that fundamentally changed me down to my core, and now, stepping into a weekend of certification, family, and support that didn’t exist in my life before. 

There were many things, before this year, big things, that never existed and I only dreamed of them. 

And here they are…in full color…dancing around in my life. 

At times, I’m sure we all wonder “is this it?” But my question back to you is…if you really dove into this moment and stepped into moments that frightened you, that terrified you beyond belief with the faith and trust that you were going to be held and looked after…what’s so wrong with this being it? 

I can tell you, from someone who perpetually lived in the future…that this moment right now, it’s as good as it gets. Not only because it’s the one moment that you actually have, but because there are incredible things happening right now. 

Shifting. Morphing. Changing. 

And all you have to do is settle down into your favorite chair outside your house, close your eyes, hear the frogs chirping and drink that glass of wine next to you. 

What could be more perfect than that moment?

“So stay open…who knows? Lightning could strike.” – MJB

Evan Sanders
The Better Man Project