Delightfully peculiar.

Times are changing.

Things are shifting almost on the daily. There’s an eeriness of mystery around everything that’s unsettling and yet completely refreshing at the same time. I’m living in the unknown at its finest and truly existing in moments of having made grand commitments to the future and seeing those commitments through daily.

I think this is because I know that I’m heading into a place I’ve never really been certain of before. And that idea…well I’m falling in love with it more and more every single day.

The tests and obstacles have eased over the past couple of weeks. They have settled down and given me a well deserved break. Honestly, I needed to breathe for a while. It was getting pretty shaky there for some time and I didn’t really have any clue of how it was going to go.

But I always kept in mind that you don’t have to see the light, you can be the light.

When things get dark you have the ability to be the light that you need to traverse difficult times.

I didn’t really learn that until a couple of years ago. I didn’t really believe that until lately.

Sometimes we travel through such challenging situations the the lessons we learned really solidify into something that becomes a part of us. What’s another one that I’ve learned probably better than anything this year?


Patience in being able to let things play out to see what the final cards are going to be.

When I was younger, I used to play my hand far too fast. I would throw all my cards down on the table and because I lacked patience, I never really got the chance to use any of my other tools or skills to give myself better odds than I originally had.

You would be surprised how many times the river card will rock your world if you stick around and to play the game a little bit better.

My point is this…

You have to be patient with all of the unknown. You have to be willing to be able to sit in everything and not exactly know what is coming your way. You may have an idea of what you would like to see for yourself…

But I think that idea comes from a deep passion inside that is beyond what our brain can simply concoct. I think we are giving a heading and if we follow that intuition everything will be exactly the way that it needs to be for us.

That’s the incredible thing about having faith. You can have faith in a path, you can have faith in yourself, and you can have faith that whatever needs to happen in the future will happen and it will be the perfect thing for you.

This helps you grow.

This helps you bloom.

This helps you become something far grander than what you are now.

I had to go through some growing pains at the end of the year that truly challenged my belief in this idea altogether, but I have to say being on the other side of it, I’m glad I did go through it.

Because I’m sitting here tonight a much stronger man for holding firm to what I knew was right for me. I knew what was good for my heart and what I needed to do in order to move forward with my life. Despite the pains, I have continued on and have brought a big smile back on my face.

You never know how things are going to go. But that’s the point. That’s what makes life so exciting.

Evan Sanders
The Better Man Project