I’ve been very quiet.

Very quiet.

I’ve been charging forward behind the scenes in many different ways but have taken the time to get about 10,000ft above a few aspects of my life. I’ve been looking at things, spending time with them, opening up to new possibilities and bringing myself to a point of making final decisions.

But I’ve been quiet.

Very quiet.

And that has allowed me to listen very carefully to this voice that has been telling me which way to go.

Never before in my life have I heard this voice so clearly. It’s powerful and deep, and when it speaks it can’t be ignored. It silences everything else that may be trying to pull my attention.

It’s asked for me to change my routines away from old ways, to continue building what I’m about to launch (December 1st) and to believe that the new adjustments to my path are the right way. In fact, they are the way.

This has all brought me to a new place. A place of…


I had someone ask me the other night what has brought me to the place where I am now and I think for the first time this answer came out of my mouth…

“Don’t be afraid to reinvent yourself each and every day.”

“Look at what happened yesterday and understand how you are going to make changes today. How are you going to improve? How are you going to let that fall away just a little bit more? How are you going to let go of the things you can let go of and bring in more space?”

If you’re constantly asking yourself these questions, you can’t help but change things.

But if you refuse to change…

If you refuse to switch things up out of neglect…

That’s when things get really messy. I’ve done it. I’ve seen it. I coach people through that.

It’s amazing what happens when you give someone the encouragement and space to be able to start changing things.

But more importantly, it’s amazing to see what happens when you give people the unconditional support to be in that space in the first place.

We all need people around us who can support our growing pains. I’ve gone through them. Hell, I’ve gone through incredible growing pains throughout the last month. There’s been very well intentioned reason why I haven’t been writing as much here…

It’s because I heard the call to start writing by hand again and I’ve almost filled up another 300 page Moleskin journal. Words have been pouring out and the mystery of everything that is my life has continued.

And that’s just the way it should be.

It’s all a mystery.

But once in a while, we are called to reinvent ourselves. We hear that deep beckoning voice that resonates with us in ways that any other outside influence could never attempt to match.

We hear that call…and if we answer it…things change in ways we could never really predict.

I’ve heard that call and know I’m on the verge of something. Maybe that will be the 1st of December? Maybe that will be farther down the line. But I’ve heard it and I’ve seen what can come out of it.

But most importantly, I’ve made the changes it has asked of me and have moved forward in many different arenas of life. I’ve refused to be stuck in the past and have dragged myself (at points) into this moment over and over again.

That’s granted me one thing…

Contact. Contact with everything that is going on. When I say contact, I mean the ability to feel and experience everything. And oh do I mean everything.

Chaos. Love. Passion. Excitement. Fury.

The list goes on and on.

But that’s actually living. When you can connect with all of those things, even the negative (and not take it out on yourself or anyone else) you grow. Your life morphs into something much more incredible because you have access to all of the colors to paint with.

Sure some are darker than others but you need those. You need that edge. And honestly, a lot of my edge comes from having access to those darker sides of my life. I used to run like all hell from them and they would consume me. Now, meh…let’s paint with them.

Take some time to get 10,000 ft above everything that is going on in your life.

When you can see things from different angles, it makes a hell of a lot of sense what is actually going on. You can see the dots connecting and understand exactly where you are at and what you need to do to get to where you are going. Problem is most people don’t take time in their day to do this practice.

You must. You have to be able to disconnect from being in the frame so you can actually see the picture once in a while.

At least, that’s what I do

Give it a shot. See everything as it is and not how you want it to be. It will relax things, not make them worse, because you are living in reality vs. the matrix. You don’t suffer as much when you accept the way things are or what happened. Instead, more contact.

So breathe into what is going on. Elevate a little to see what’s happening. Accept your condition and move forward with drive.

Never stop changing and improving upon yesterday’s actions and achievements. Don’t get stale. Don’t get complacent.

Evan Sanders
The Better Man Project