Do or die.

There’s really no other option than that. The dreams die when you don’t and life is incredibly exciting when you do. Don’t sit in the middle on this one. Don’t wait for things to happen for you because they rarely ever will. You have to go out and grab what you want and hold your dreams close to your chest.

I’ve been talking about dreams lately because it’s what I know right now. I never really write about what I don’t know because I can’t put any feeling into it. What I can tell you is that these past few months have changed my life and have allowed me to either speed up the course I was on or slightly adjust (not sure I will ever know) to make it to my short term destination. Who knows what it will be like when I get there…and no one knows what will happen after that, but I am confident that I will be able to find that out when the time comes.

I trust myself now with…myself.

Before, that wasn’t really the case. But now, there’s something different in the air. There’s a sense of faith. No longer is it about hoping that one day it will happen. Those days are long gone. Now, it’s about making the necessary efforts to make it happen.

What lesson have I pulled from today so far?

Take a minute…and then adjust. I had an old baseball coach that told me that his players were always allowed to vent for 30 seconds, yell, scream, (away from the field of course)…but after 30 seconds they had to come back to cheer their team on and do their job. I really liked that. It’s important to get those things out because if you don’t they tend to take your mind away from what you are doing and what you are aiming to accomplish. You have to have thick skin in this life. Without it, you are going to get eaten up alive.

So when someone says something or suddenly something unexpected happens, adjust. Take your time to get it out of your system and then keep moving forward. You don’t get to always call the shots in life. There will be times when things are completely out of your control. But the one thing that is constantly in your control is you. You have complete control over yourself and you should never allow someone to take that away from you.

For me, it’s about not letting the past creep in and take any room in my present or future. If it’s in the past, it belongs in the past for a reason. I’m not going to rehash old topics of conversation because someone else can’t let it go. Move forward. Move on.

Do or die.

Evan Sanders
The Better Man Project