Many times I wonder how I am learning to handle it?

How am I learning to let these pains go?

How can I see people come and go in my life despite my best efforts and still be ok?

How can I start a brand new day without dragging yesterday into it?

Some days are a a lot harder than others. If there’s one thing I’ve learned through years of working on this, it’s that everything…and I mean everything…is fluid.

It’s every changing, morphing, adapting and adjusting. While we all have our own paths, and we lose, lose, lose, we also have to realize that we are being primed to win, win, win. Today in many ways there were major wins.

But in many ways, there were painful losses.

And that’s life.

Balanced as it can be.

It truly is the hardest thing in the world. Seeing people come and go. Many of them don’t actually leave you, but they aren’t there anymore.

The soul of it disappears and you are left with feelings of what once was. People and the way they make you feel are addicting at times.

We have our happiest of moments and support during our lowest of lows.

When that’s gone…then what?

I try not to say goodbye anymore. I don’t say goodbye because time and time again I have been proven wrong about things. As much as I think things have ended something always comes around full circle.

It may take days, it may take years…but it always happens…and every single time I am knocked off my feet.

When things like this happen, we have pull into our faith.

We have to believe that everything is going to turn out okay and with each new day we will be given the opportunity to show our appreciation for the people and the things we have in our lives.

It’s hard to get to that place of appreciation sometimes. It’s hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel when all we can see is what is happening right now in the moment – pain.

This is hard to say, but my understanding of the way life works is only through having spent a great deal of time dealing with these situations in the first place. I’ve only learned through experience.

It’s one that I never wish upon anyone, but know that it’s only going to make it’s mark on wisdom if they experience it themselves.

The new day.

It’s a promise. It’s a promise that something great can begin once again. It’s an opportunity to build upon the old and start over if need be.

We have a chance to do something great, but most importantly, to keep deeply loving.

Because without that, we would be half the people we could be.

Without deeply loving one another, all of the bad things that go on would just consume us in a heartbeat.

Do not be discouraged by the negatives, they are only there to remind you of the positives.

Evan Sanders
The Better Man Project