I think if the words we spoke were written on our skin for all time we would be a lot more careful with what we say.  

I think back to the hundreds of thousands of words I have written here and smile. But truthfully, I am most proud of the words I wrote when I was in the most pain. Those times I felt slighted, humiliated, looked down upon, cheated, those times challenged me the most to be able to put something positive to paper. Sometimes it demanded tears, but in the end, it was all worth it. 

The hardest thing in the world is to gentle with someone else when you are in pain. Everything in you wants to fight back, to react, to cast it out – but I truly believe the measure of a strong person is how gentle they can be with others. 

A long time ago, in the midst of a bit of a revelation of some sorts, I wrote a post called “Everything Matters.” I had come to the realization that all of our actions matter – instead of the cynical way of looking at things – as if nothing mattered because we are such small beings on the scale of the entire universe. No, it struck me hard that each step you take, each decision you make, each smile, the words you say – it all matters. It matters because you have more reach than you could possibly imagine and everything you do puts off energy that ripples throughout the universe. 

Got a little philosophical there.

The things you say to people can make their day or they can completely ruin it. Why not make them happier? Why not give them an extra boost to set them on the right path? See the power of our words lies in what we say, but also with how we say them. With emotion, love, and compassion behind them, our words can become incredible communicators.

I think that’s why I love writing and I know I will continue forever. It allows me to reach a lot of people I couldn’t possibly reach. For me, it helps me with the realization that being part of a bigger picture…being something greater than myself is more important than anything.

Evan Sanders
The Better Man Project