We are capable of so many things, yet it seems like there is an almost necessity to let things…almost…slip away before we truly grab onto them for dear life.

Sadly enough, we can see our dream die right in front of us. Or, as I have heard many times, many of us will take our ideas and dreams to the grave. It’s been said that the richest place in the world is the graveyard . . . a home to inventions, ideas, and dreams that were never realized for one reason or another. But the greatest reason of them all is this: fear.

Fear of failure is a pretty looming proposition for most. But there is another type of fear that isn’t talked about a lot. The fear of success . . . and what might happen if you can’t handle it.

I failed over and over again, but inside my I think the fear of success actually overwhelmed me completely. Having huge dreams can be stressful at times. You have set the tone for your life, you have seen your potential, and then you actually have to go out and compete with that potential every day. The biggest part is that the person you are right now – no matter how great that person has to be – has to step up to the plate and be better because your potential is already calling you out.

Instead of taking this on as a daily challenge I actually became discouraged. I became a person of “tomorrow” for a long time. Maybe not with everything, but with a few very big parts of my life. Tomorrow was the promise of another try. Tomorrow always became  the scapegoat of not sacrificing today.

Your moment to create is now.

That’s all you really have. It’s very easy to believe that there will always be a tomorrow. But at a certain point in your life, you might actually find that the days turned to years and you missed your opportunity because you didn’t cherish these moments enough. I can tell you that sitting here, putting positive vibes out into the world by writing about hope is my moment. This is me seizing what I know I am supposed to be doing. Because I know, that if one person can turn their day around, can see light in the darkness, because of my writing today . . . I have  done my job. That energy, that change . . . I might never know the true impact of it around the world . . . the ripple effect so to speak, but I know it is there.

I do believe there is a need to believe.

Belief can be many different things for people. But today, I want to talk about believing in yourself and being a man or woman who lets their actions speak volumes and their words are only become a guaranteed show of intent. The greatest shift in my consciousness over the past month+ has been one little idea: your words are meaningless, and in fact painfully misrepresentative of what you are doing if your actions aren’t directly showing people what you are doing with your life.

I don’t know how much longer it would have taken for my dream to pass me by . . . but I know now that I seized it in time to really do something with it. Every day I am learning a little bit more about it, a little bit more about how I can develop it, make it better, make it have more of an impact and take it to the next level. My dream is mine.

I am living it every day.

And what am I most proud of? That the results are coming. One month down. 70 days to go.

Evan Sanders
The Better Man Project