Always believe in yourself.

In time, things done with great love, even though they may delver short term pain always bring the best back to us.

Hard decisions have to be made. Thing is, you can make those decisions with other people in mind. When I was much younger, I thought the world simply revolved around me. What I found out, by way of karma, is that is the farthest thing from the truth. You can live that way, but in the end selfishness comes back to bite you in the butt.

The mark of a truly unselfish person is to think of the ripples amongst people on the outside before making a decision. While it is almost impossible to prevent everyone from getting hurt, you can, in fact, do the best thing for everyone and yourself. Sometimes you just have to think it our a bit more than usual.

The rebirth of my writing hasn’t come at the hands of procrastination.

It has come at the hands of taking the time to get introspective with myself and dig a bit deeper than normal. Sometimes when you write things out every single day you think you may have solved the issue at hand but end up realizing there about 50 more layers to the onion. I have been guilty of skinning the first layer and thinking I was at the root.

Not the case.

What I have realized over these past few months is that there is a substantial responsibility in actually getting to the core of the issue. Without actually knowing what is the fundamental problem…you can continue to spin your wheels in the mud.

A hint was given to me when I was watching the movie “Jobs” and Kutcher says something to the effect of “You have to want to fix a problem. You have to want to right a wrong in the world.”

That got me thinking. What actually is the problem here?

After sifting through it all – the relationships, issues, complaints, the past…and everything else in between…I came to it.

I am not proud of what I am doing.

Talk about a revaluation. Whatever I have been doing, I wasn’t really proud of it. Some things were hobbies, others were just…things I was doing. But there wasn’t anything that I could really stamp my name on and say “I did that.”

As you could imagine, with most things that I do, this lead to sweeping reforms.

And big changes are being made.

I guess I have to take my advice, because throughout time I have always said “You can change your life in an instant, you just have to be willing to accept the consequences.”

My own words are hard to swallow sometimes – but as that whole life thing would have it – I would be tested in this.

This led me to another realization. Mastery, excellence, and excitement…no matter how great…are completely useless without belief. The type of belief where you know that what you are doing is going to make a difference and it is going to change either the world or someones life.

I have the opportunity in front of me. In fact, I have the type of opportunity that excites my soul and makes me yearn for more. It makes me want to work hard. I can feel it pulling me in a direction. A direction that will eventually speak volumes…and I will be able to say, with pride not ego…you know the _____ I made that.

The belief is there.

And the cool thing…it has melted into other parts of my life.

Always believe in yourself.

Evan Sanders
The Better Man Project