There was this incredible moment last night as I walked behind the set on Dancing With The Stars premier and I want to tell you about it. This moment could not have been more special.

For the longest time I have had this image in my mind that has festered within. A trifecta – a complete unison between the mind, the body, and the soul. It is this grouping of 3 that I see the greatest amount of light, passion, and fire within my heart. I’ll come back to this in a second.

As I was walking behind my friends last night behind the stage, I had this moment where everything got very very quite. Eerily quiet. It’s strange because as I was walking in I knew there was loud music and people clapping on the dance floor excited for what was to come. But it wall went silent. I had this moment of clarity and knew this was a moment that I was going to relive soon in the future. I guess you could call it a moment of foreshadowing for deja vu. In that moment I knew I was meant to do this again, but instead of walking behind this stage to dance, I would walk behind this stage and enter in front of thousands of people to speak.

The heavens turned the noise back on and I found myself clapping with a little hop in my step – all being completely offbeat. The excitement of this moment had delivered me to some time in the future and I had arrived with full intention of accomplishing what needed to be done in that moment. I lived forward for a few seconds. I felt what was to come, and that feeling has remained in my stomach even until this afternoon.

As I sat in my chair watching my roommate take the stage and dance beautifully, I had this feeling of warmth. Those hands that were washed away off my shoulders in the shower yesterday were placed warmly across my back. I knew this was a special moment.

My dreams scare the shit out of me. But that’s how I know they are proper in size. They have scared me so many times that I have put them aside for more time living an old life. That moment last night however brought something to my attention that I feel like I had been “searching” for. I had been looking for the greatest amount of time but never found what I needed. Thing is, maybe that pain is what I needed. The insecurity, the doubt, the anguish I had to go through during a time when things seemed so opaque. Maybe that is exactly what I needed to understand what clarity really does look like. When I think back to it now, I am almost positive.

There’s a difference between interest and commitment. When you’re interested in doing something, you do it only when it’s convenient. When you’re committed to something, you accept no excuses; only results.

– Kenneth Blanchard

It took me a long long time to get to that moment – the moment when all doubt was removed from my mind about what I was supposed to do. I have had bits and pieces delivered to me throughout time, but this took everything away – all doubt, anxiety, worry.

I believe in what I am doing. But something rooted inside of me last night. Something told me that there is now a bit more than just belief. The vision has become razor-sharp with a commitment that has been lit aflame.

Mind. Body. Soul. Lets see what happens when you connect all 3.

Evan Sanders
The Better Man Project