Happiness is…

A few different things all done well over time, day in day out, will make the biggest difference in your life. It has completely changed mine. You have to be willing to look at the pieces of  your life that make up the entire equation and see what you can improve upon. Check it out in its entirety. Don’t spare the details. That brings me to the most important part of making a change.

Accept your condition

When you accept your condition, the good and the bad, you are fully capable of being able to change your inputs. What does that mean? Changing your inputs is changing your view on things, which yields you different actions and ultimately different results. The beauty of it all is often the best news is the worst news. Learning that can help you in the best of ways. You have to be willing to put the darkness as well as the light on the table when you are starting out. The next step?

Happiness in the aggregate

Focus on making one small change a day. Don’t try to accomplish everything at once. When I first started this project, my goal the first day was to smile. When I think back, I just am in awe of the fact that was even the goal. So don’t be afraid to start small with your goals. In fact, it’s almost better to start with small goals because you gain momentum when you achieve them. That momentum gives you the little extra bit of courage you need to go after loftier goals.

Get really uncomfortable

The reason why you don’t have what you want is because you are doing what you are doing right now. It’s the truth. If you have the desire to change you have to change what you are putting into that dream. So get uncomfortable. Do the things you aren’t doing. That will give you a pretty quick change of pace. Promise.

Set big goals. Nail the small details. Gain momentum. Go for it.

Evan Sanders
The Better Man Project