Thera are so many things to be scared of in this life.

Yep. That about sums it up right?

At the same time, we know in our minds that we know that there are so many things to enjoy about the time we spend here. We see others who have achieved dreams, we look to the starts and wonder what is it like to fly among them, we see those in love and wonder how they did it. We wonder a lot. We what if a lot. We dream – and how could you not when you see what you want right in front of your eyes.

We have those moments when we close our eyes and  get goosebumps every time we think about opening them to the life we have dreamed of. That’s when you know you are really alive. When you are creating every moment of the day because you feel like you have control over yourself. And isn’t that the greatest obstacle? The fight that rages within the self?

I can testify to how hard it can be to have big goals and dreams and watch them float by when your spending your energy battling the demons inside. There comes a point however, where you have to decide what is more worth it: being comfortable or achieving something great. It takes some guts to admit to yourself that the reason why you don’t have what you wished for is because you were more concerned being comfortable in the place you were than sacrificing.

If you want it, and you don’t have it currently, you are going to have to make some sacrifices.

If you want to have a fiery passionate life, and you don’t have one right now…there are going to have to be some changes. YOU are going to have to make them. No one else is responsible for what is going on in your life or what you decide to do. You are responsible for your past, present, and future. Because at the end of the day, you close your eyes. No one else does it for you.

And lastly…it all breaks down to one thing: loving people and life as much as possible. We can get caught up in what other people say and what the best piece of advice is, but if you don’t actually live life you are going to spend time imitating everyone else and you end up a product of other people – not of your own wishes. You need to do what is going to make you happy and what will make you into the best individual possible. If you want to ask him/her out on a date – ask. If you want to text them one day after you had your date – do it. Society has all these standards and rules for how things should be done. And people actually take this advice! Look at society first and ask, “Do I want that for myself?” Trust me, when you find the right people in your life, you can just act like yourself and not have to worry about impressing anyone. They are there for you and believe in you.

Do you. That doesn’t mean forget about other people, but you truly can’t be there for others in the largest capacity possible if you can’t be there for yourself. Food for thought.

Evan Sanders
The Better Man Project