There is nothing more lost than a confused heart. You’re head has a  tendency to overcomplicate things, but when your heart is at play, you can truly lose yourself. It happens. We fall. We fall hard. Sometimes, it takes a good fall to truly understand where you stand.

What if all the words that were ever uttered out of your mouth were written on your skin? Would you hide your skin with clothes or would you be proud of the lines flowing over your skin like water in the ocean. There would be moments of crashing and yet, at the same time, there would be those times of stillness and peace. Those words will always be there. They will never be lost or gone. Permanently inscribed on your skin. If this was the case, what would you start to write today?

Things happen in our lives that we aren’t exactly proud of how they turned out. Sometimes the best of intentions get lost in the heat of it all and your plan gets chewed to pieces. It has become clear to me that kindness is the purest value to live by. In a world where kindness seems to be the last thing that is free, it becomes even more important to be the most loving and caring person out there. To have arms that extend open past what is comfortable and to truly feel what others feel. I know this in my heart to be true. At times, I have lost sight of that. At times, I have acted otherwise. It is impossible to go through life without hurting others. If you try to be liked by everyone and avoid trouble then you end up being a shell of a real person. We will hurt those that we love the most. It will happen to each of us. Maybe a confused heart causes this…maybe a lack of experience or pain…but in the end it’s about what we do to make things right that matters.

It’s time for me to let some things go. Sometimes we don’t even know we are holding them inside until they suddenly jump out. We don’t always receive the reasons for why it happens that way, but in the end, we always get the lesson. Stay true to yourself even during the harshest of times. When someone is trying to bring you down, don’t lose your class. There are things to fight for in this world, but there are significantly more things not to fight for. I will think about what happened tonight for a while longer because it deserves to be handled with care. I will correct the wrongs. But I know that I will learn. And I know it wont happen again.

Evan Sanders
The Better Man Project