I think we all know that it isn’t just about us. We don’t go through this life completely alone. In fact, we would lose all of the joy in life of spending time with other people if we did. I truly believe that our happiness comes from filling the buckets of others and in turn having those around us fill us up as well. In my book, I wrote about one of the hardest things for me to overcome: losing loved ones. I think that this is one of the biggest challenges humanity faces. In a world where things come and go, it can be often vicious in what it takes from us before we even thought it would. But as time went on, I came to learn to accept that this was all part of a balanced cycle. The cycle of life. Give and take.

As I look at the quote above, I feel some closure to a concept that I have been thinking about for a while. There is something inside of me that loves to give unconditional love to people. To keep trying and keep showing them that I care no matter what. Which I truly do. I can’t tell you how many times that love though on the surface seems to be ignored or it is left unanswered. It stings a little bit…but I always try to remember that it is not personal. I have some people around me that take great care of me and consistently motivate me to become something better. They elevate me and it means the world to me. And as I look into my life and see those times where I have been left unanswered, I no longer meet it with hostility, but with that same unconditional love I was talking about – because most of the time, those are the ones that need it the most.

Evan Sanders
The Better Man Project