When you mess up, own it. There’s no putting it on the other person. It doesn’t matter how upset they are, how pissed, how hurt, you have to take responsibility for you. Because if you don’t take responsibility for your actions when things hit the fan, then who are you going to be when no one is looking, and it is you vs. your integrity. From day 1, I have told myself that integrity was one of the most important things to have in my life. Before Love Passion Never Quit there was the search for “saying what I will do…and then doing it.”
I think many of us have the equation completely wrong with why bad things happen. Bad things don’t happen to automatically expose your weaknesses. They happen to test to see what your character is in that moment, and depending on whether or not you take responsibility or pass it off…then they expose you as who you truly are. To be completely honest, I forgot about somewhere I was supposed to be last night and that hurt someone else and embarrassed them probably pretty bad. When things go wrong, there’s every opportunity in the world to pass off responsibility…or, you could take of dose of humility…and wear it.
Alright, so what am I going to do? I need to get way more organized and I need to start writing things down. For me, speaking just from a personal level on this, I hate letting people down. I just feel trash. But I know that mistakes happen, and I can learn from them. So that in the future, I can not make the same mistake I just did.
One more thing. When you blow it with someone, you have two options. Be selfish and deflect everything, or truly care…and do what you have to do to make it better. Choice is yours.
Evan Sanders
The Better Man Project
Amazingly written! I agree with you entirely. If we don’t own up to our mistakes and take responsibility for what we say or do, then we would live in complete denial. We should all try to learn from our experiences, rather than forget they ever happened. Great blog! 🙂
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I always like rap songs that mean something. No offense to the artists now these days, but this can be more meaningful to someone than “booty shaking” and clubbing and drinking. You really hit home for me when you said that line: “It’s you vs. your integrity, because who are you going to be when no one else is looking?” That’s really insightful. Keep writing.
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Goodday!!! Very well put, i haven’t read all of your post butt, i will.. thanks>>>
I’m not sure who said this, but it is one of my favorite quotes… “I’d rather be hated for what I am than loved for what I am not” (or something like that). Own the mistakes and just keep trying. Thanks for the post. 🙂
This post really resonates, especially why bad things happen. I got a traffic ticket two days ago, had to be honest when the cop pulled me over. Thanks for writing this.
And thanks for following my Richard Brautigan blog. Being real with people is certainly a part of that novel’s theme.
Thank you! 🙂
Go for it! that is what they are there for!
I LOVE THIS! I hope you don’t mind if I utilize some of your posts, pictures, and quotes in my class. If this is not okay with you, please let me know. Thank you for sharing! Absolutely AMAZING!
I like this. I am very good at taking responsibility but suffer sometimes from sugurcoatingitis when things are very painful. It doesn’t help, I can see that now. From this day i on will try to be more accepting of what is and not sacrifice my own integrity in an effort to “make things better” I love your blog. Love it, love it, love it. I do believe I am becoming a better woman.
Well said. This takes me back to reflect on two of my favorite quotes: “Character is what you do when no one is watching” and “A clear conscience makes the softest pillow.”
As uncomfortable as it sometimes I can be, owning up to my mistakes always feels better in the end. After all, I’m the only person I can change. 🙂 Well written, thank you for the reminder.
The ending resonates in my heart as the thought of the day! nicely said and thank you for sharing such positive thoughts and accepting responsibility! 🙂