When you mess up, own it. There’s no putting it on the other person. It doesn’t matter how upset they are, how pissed, how hurt, you have to take responsibility for you. Because if you don’t take responsibility for your actions when things hit the fan, then who are you going to be when no one is looking, and it is you vs. your integrity. From day 1, I have told myself that integrity was one of the most important things to have in my life. Before Love Passion Never Quit there was the search for “saying what I will do…and then doing it.”

I think many of us have the equation completely wrong with why bad things happen. Bad things don’t happen to automatically expose your weaknesses. They happen to test to see what your character is in that moment, and depending on whether or not you take responsibility or pass it off…then they expose you as who you truly are. To be completely honest, I forgot about somewhere I was supposed to be last night and that hurt someone else and embarrassed them probably pretty bad. When things go wrong, there’s every opportunity in the world to pass off responsibility…or, you could take of dose of humility…and wear it.

Alright, so what am I going to do? I need to get way more organized and I need to start writing things down. For me, speaking just from a personal level on this, I hate letting people down. I just feel trash. But I know that mistakes happen, and I can learn from them. So that in the future, I can not make the same mistake I just did.

One more thing. When you blow it with someone, you have two options. Be selfish and deflect everything, or truly care…and do what you have to do to make it better. Choice is yours.

Evan Sanders
The Better Man Project