In no way is this a current reflection of my situation at the moment, but, I wanted to share a piece of advice with you that came from someone very close to me a long time ago. Today, for some reason, this just popped up in my head and I knew that I had to write it down here. I actually have two separate stories for you.

You have to hold people you love with an open hand, so that one day they can fly away, and in time, they will come back and eventually be there in some way or another. The heart is a great thing, that breaks and molds itself back together…and no matter how bad the pain or how warm it is, it always remembers those who you love.

This is one of the best pieces of advice I have received and I just wanted to share that with you today. Often of times we try to hold onto events or people because we think our lives were better off back then. There is a common phrase that says “everything happens for a reason.” This phrase is true, and in my own life, I have added a bit of an explanation. Everything happens for a reason because it was the most perfect thing that could have happened to you at that time in your life.

About a year and a half ago, I sat down to dinner with some of my grandparents best friends, and my grandmothers best friend told me a story about my grandmother when my grandfather moved to California. My grandmother, mama, decided to stay on the east coast, and after months, packed up all her stuff and moved to California. She simply explained to everyone when they asked her why she did it, “You know its right when you can’t live without them.” I will keep my grandmothers advice close to my heart. I wanted to share this with everyone today because I know that there are people out there going through things and needing to make big decisions about life. Things are a little simpler than you think. Stay open, who knows, lightning could strike.

Evan Sanders
The Better Man Project