Too often we talk too much. We try to impress others, we try to impress ourselves, make ourselves seem to be something we aren’t, or we just say pointless things.
Its true, the outspoken ones usually are the ones that are the most insecure. The person that has to drag all the attention towards themselves feels that they have to for acceptance. That really is unnecessary.
Silence can be your best friend. Sometimes the right thing to do in a situation is be silent. Never utter a word. If you are silent, they can’t tear you apart for what you said or how you reacted.
Sit there, without a stir, and as my dad would say, “never let them see you sweat.” Everyone has the urge to fight back, to say something that really will cut deep, and to defend themselves. But take the higher road. Don’t give anyone anything to work with. If you stay silent and to yourself, you can deal with a situation a lot better.
I know for a fact I work on silence.
Today, I sat down in my room, in the dead quiet, for 30 minutes and closed my eyes and just let my mind wander. It is amazing the things you can figure out and the solutions to problems you can come up with. We all run around too much during the day and really need the time to unwind. None of us take that time.
I learn things about myself when I am alone. Recently, I have learned how pliable I actually am. I am 100% willing to try new methods or new things. I think its because I know that Im not perfect, and never will be. Therefore, there is always something to learn and some new way to do something.
I am doing pretty well with keeping my goals in sight. I haven’t posted recently because I have been thinking about what I wanted to say. Maybe thats another lesson that I should put down here. There have been many instances where I haven’t thought about what I wanted to say before I actually said it.
The results were catastrophic. It is also important for me to know what I am going to say here. While not everything goes into these posts, it is still a great part of my life and important to me. If there is one thing I have learned in the past few days, its the importance of just slowing down and enjoying the quiet.
Evan Sanders
The Better Man Project