We often talk too much.

We try to impress others, we try to impress ourselves, make ourselves seem to be something we aren’t, or we just say pointless things.

The outspoken ones usually are the ones that are the most insecure. The person that has to drag all the attention towards themselves feels that they have to because of this insatiable need for acceptance.

That’s really unnecessary.

Silence can be your best friend.

Sometimes the right thing to do in a situation is be quiet.

If you are silent, they can’t tear you apart for what you said or how you reacted. If you’re silent, you can really start to “see” what’s going on by being able to fully listen to everything around you.

Sit there, without a stir, and as my dad would say, never let them see you sweat.

Everyone has the urge to fight back, to say something that really will cut deep and to defend themselves. But take the higher road. Don’t give anyone anything to work with. If you stay silent, you can deal with a situation a lot better.

I know for a fact I work on silence.

Today, I sat down in my room, in the dead quiet, for 30 minutes and closed my eyes and just let my mind wander. It is amazing the things you can figure out and the solutions to problems you can come up with when you cut the distractions down.

None of us take that time.

Hardly any of us take the time to really check in with ourselves and make sure that we are doing okay. It’s something I desperately need in my life as I am going on this journey.

I learn things about myself when I am alone.

Recently, I have learned how pliable I actually am. I am 100% willing to try new methods or new things. I think it’s because I know that I’m not perfect, and never will be. Therefore, there is always something to learn and some new way to do something.

Let your mind settle.

Let your heart wander.

You will eventually find your way.

Evan Sanders
The Better Man Project