Top 21 Posts From The Better Man Project | 2014

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The Rocky Balboa Speech That Dragged Me Out Of Hell

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The Rocky Balboa speech that dragged me out of hell could not have come at a better time, and would forever change the course of my life.

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Probably one of the most popular posts on The Better Man Project, the Rocky story lands as one of my personal favorites as well. Way back when Rocky Balboa came out on DVD, I was in a pretty bad place in my life. I was sick beyond belief and turned it on well past midnight and was absolutely captured by the profound messages strewn all throughout the movie. I think you’ll enjoy this post if you are struggling with making excuses about not going out and doing what you want with your life.

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Don’t Lose a Diamond While Chasing Glitter

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I think most are disappointed not because they aimed too high and missed, but because they aimed too low and hit. Don’t lose a diamond while chasing glitter.

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It’s pretty darn easy to get distracted by glitter and take your focus away from the diamonds you have in your life. As the years have gone on, I have found that bringing in high quality is far better than bringing in excessive quantity. Maybe it’s the society we live in? Maybe not. The point is, it seems that there are many people who enter into your life who deserve a great deal of your time, love, and effort simply because they are amazing and they give you back the same. Never forget where you came from and who helped you get to where you are now.

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O’ That Devil Inside

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We all have a devil mucking around inside of us. Embrace the darkness within. Take a walk with it. Learn from it. Then choose light.

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One of the greatest periods of growth in my life has been throughout this past year. I was dealing with some pretty bad habits and things that were controlling my life, and I remember writing this piece after having visions of confronting my fears instead of running away from them. This is something I had never done before. O’ That Devil Inside is about embracing the darkness we each have within us and learning to understand it rather than hide from it. It’s only when we have true acceptance for ourselves that we can move forward with our lives.

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On The Beauty Of Women

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Women are beautiful.

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A year ago I was sent an article written by some complete jerk online who completely ripped women apart for completely unjustifiable reasons. I was asked for my opinion on the article and it struck me so negatively that I had to write something in response to it. This was my response, probably the most shared piece of content I have ever created, and it came straight from the heart. I haven’t had the easiest of times with women, but I do believe that they are all beautiful and deserve respect…not because they are women…but because we are all people who deserve love and care – doesn’t matter which race, gender, color, height, weight, etc.

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Encouragement: The Dose Of Support Our World Needs

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Encouragement matters more than you think. In a world that has grown many methods of hate, we need more ways to spread positivity.

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Encouragement really does matter. I can remember the times in my life when people really brought me up and told me that they believed in me. Those were and still are very special times and I keep them close to my heart. I wrote this piece about encouragement because there are so many people out there hating on others and trying to make themselves feel better by bring others down. That’s no way to live your life. So bring people up and make each of them feel like they actually matter.

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O’ To Love How Rare That Is

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Cold hearts are a weak barrier to love. Overt strength is not strength at all. It’s weakness acting to an audience. Love transcends everything.

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What is it like to really love? I find it to be such a rare but unimaginably great feeling. As time has gone on, my definition of what love is has grown significantly. I think for me it’s about understanding what it’s not rather than what it is. Experience has granted me that understanding many times.

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On Being Gentle

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There is only one thing that breaks down walls: being gentle. In a world full of confrontation and hate, being gentle is defining being strong.

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I always loved the quote from James Dean that “Only the gentle are ever really strong.” I think it takes a lot more to be gentle with people than to be reckless and out of control. Over time I have tried to develop this trait in my life. I’ve toned down the sarcasm and jokes and pulled more from a side of understanding than anything. I love this change in my life and I wrote about them here.

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Taking Off The Masks We Wear

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The masks we wear hinder our ability to shine as bright as we can. Take off the mask to engulf yourself in possibility and live wonderfully.

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We all wear masks at one time or another. I think one of the most courageous things you can do is admit that to yourself and to others and take the masks off. Masks protect us, but then again, they rid us of one of the greatest gifts of all – vulnerability. Vulnerability gives us the opportunity to see people (and ourselves) in the light of truth…further allowing us to move in a positive direction with our life. When we refuse to take the masks off, we will never see ourselves as we actually are.

 

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How Bad Do You Want It?

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How bad do you want it? Are you willing to give up what makes you comfortable and sacrifice today for tomorrow? I’ve had to ask myself that question a lot.

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During the back end of my fitness journey, I had to start listening to speech after speech to keep me going and to fire up my motivation. How Bad Do You Want It a speech by Eric Thomas was playing in my ears over and over…and reminded me consistently that my pain was going to be a part of my final product. It turned out he was very right.

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You Have To Want It More Than You Are Afraid Of It

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You have to want it more than you are afraid of it. Sometimes that’s a sliding scale, but excitement must always outweigh your fear.

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There is a very fine balance to life when it comes to your dreams and goals. The balance is between your fear and your excitement of making it happen. This formula, taught to me by my dad, has brought me great understanding about what it means to chase something…and where fear and passion fits into everything.

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Laying A Hero To Rest: Greg Plitt

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Today, I lost one of my greatest heroes and mentors – Greg Plitt. Since I didn’t get to say goodbye to him, I wrote to him in today’s blog. Rest in peace.

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I was pretty heartbroken when Greg Plitt tragically died about a month ago. I never really had the opportunity to tell him or show him how much he had inspired me over the couple of years since I last saw him. Since I won’t ever get that chance, I decided to write an open letter and pray those vibes somehow reached far beyond this place.

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Not Everyone Likes Peaches

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Because no one has ever talked shit about someone that didn’t mean something to them in one way or another. Not everyone likes peaches.

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It doesn’t matter how happy, caring, loving etc of a person you are, there will always be someone out there that will naturally hate you just because you are you. I couldn’t deal with that thought for a long time, but I finally worked it out in this blog.

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Continuing To Walk While Totally Scared

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Courage is not the absence of fear. Anyone who isn’t scared is a fool. It’s about acting in the face of fear, and continuing your dream.

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We will always have fear. Fear will eat you up if you let it. Life is about acting in the face of fear and not letting it overwhelm you. Here’s how I deal with my fears.

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Guts Over Fear: The Final Chapter

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Guts over fear. This is the final chapter of my journey, and what perfect timing for Eminem to inspire me once again. Let’s work.

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I struggled for the longest time with seeing something through and constantly find myself being inspired by the people and media around me. Sometimes you have to put yourself in the hands of others and trust that they will take care of you.

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Have The Courage To Walk Away

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Sometimes you have to have the courage to walk away with your head held up high no matter how hard it is.

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Not everything is going to be right for you. What was once right may change faster than you can possibly imagine. When this happens, you have to make the right decisions for yourself and walk away if need be. It’s not about quitting, it’s about changing your path on the course of something greater.

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In Victory

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We are capable of so much more than we could possible imagine. Our dreams are just the beginning of the great adventure. Then, we take the journey of life.

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On January 31st I accomplished a goal that I had had in my mind for 13 years. This post, one of my favorite posts ever, is about the feelings I had when I finally crossed that finish line.

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Everything You Need To Know About My 14 Week Fitness Journey

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My first fitness journey of 2.

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This post is about taking my first step towards my dream and hitting a milestone I thought I would never achieve.

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Those Honest Moments

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Once in a while, you need to have an honest moment with yourself and understand what is truly going on in your life.

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I had a few moments this year when I really took a hard look at my life and the events that have occurred…and realized just how responsible I was for many of the things that had occurred. Those moments actually give you power. While they are hard to deal with, you see the truth vs. your perception…and the glasses begin to fall off.

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In Service To Others

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With 2014 coming to a close, I think about my life in the future and how I want to dedicate my life to service of others.

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My future has developed significantly in terms of what I was aiming to do with my life. As it stands, my life is heading towards being in service to others and giving them my best.

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You Open The Door & It’s You

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I opened the door one night to a sound of a knock and I heard the voice outside say…”It’s you…now open up!”

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Maybe one of the most creative posts I have – this is all about what it would be like if you met your potential.

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The Hum Of The Stands

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Your going to hear this hum of the stands when you are on the field playing. The choice is yours – find a way to focus or be torn apart by the fans.

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Background conversations will always exist when you are putting yourself out into the open for the world to see. That’s a given. But how do you react to these conversations? Do you react at all? Do you stay silent? I think I figured out my own route on this topic.

 

Hope you like all of these,

Evan Sanders

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