Look Em’ In The Eye & Speak From The Heart

speak from the heart

You have to speak from the heart. If you don’t the most vulnerable moments of life will pass you by. 

My best friend wrote that quote above from Hemingway in a hollowed out book he made one one year. In fact, that has seemed to stick and every year, we attempt to make each other hollowed out books. The important part though, is that quote, and that is what I am talking about tonight.

Speak from the heart. 

It’s easy to get lost in your own intentions sometimes. We all have an agenda, but I have found through my own learning year after year that removing your agenda from a situation and leaving a space open for vulnerability and love is always the best answer.

When you speak from the heart you open up so many different worlds. You allow people though to trust you fully because everything you are saying is coming from a pure and true place. When you have an agenda, people can usually sniff that out pretty quickly. Sometimes that just comes instinctually and you shatter your chances of creating that “space.”

It is true that trust takes time, but there are people who you just sense that you can trust. This feeling comes from your gut, something I didn’t trust in myself for a long time because I was so messed up inside, but now, in having sorted out a lot of my turmoil I have begun to listen to that voice inside.

speak from the heart

When you speak from the heart, you give other people to see the real you.

Your hands and legs may shake, you may be filled with fear of the outcome, but you will never truly regret speaking your heart when you do. There have been many times throughout my life that I didn’t say something I knew I should have…something I knew that I wanted to but I was too afraid of getting rejected. Sometimes, getting rejected by someone is the best thing that can happen to you. It’s like the heavens are waving their finger at you going “nah ah” that’s not for you…you need to go this way instead.

I believe more and more these days that I have a pretty great guardian angel looking over my making sure that I am doing okay. I understand the agreement though. There will be things that I experience in this life that are going to cause me pain – these things are not meant to be events that I am diverted from. They are meant to be things that I go through. Mother Teresea said something to the effect of I know that God will only give me as much as I can handle…I just wish he didn’t trust me so much. That may be the exact quote, but for the sake of the roll I am on let’s just say that is paraphrased.

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It’s going to hurt at times, but the pain is going to be part of your pride and part of your story. Let it. It’s good for you. No one grew from being too comfortable. I know for sure that has not been the case for my life. I have battled and fought and clawed my way to get here, but now I see things for what they really are and understand that there are fundamental important characteristics to have which will make my life infinitely better.

On another note, I have formally decided to go back to school to become a certified professional life coach with emphases on health and business + whatever else I can soak in. That was a big decision this week that I am super proud of.

To the future. May you be tested and grow to your greatest potential.

Oh, and always speak from the heart.

– Evan Sanders

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  • hoopseeker
    October 2, 2014 at 10:40 pm

    You are going to be an amazing life coach! So proud of you.

    • thebettermanproject
      October 6, 2014 at 3:22 pm

      Thank you so much I really mean it! Cant wait to start

  • 61chrissterry
    October 3, 2014 at 8:31 am

    Well said, be you and not some imitation, for to imitate you have to have a good memory.

  • wildflowerks
    October 10, 2014 at 11:48 am

    We need more people out there with this type of mentality in the world today.

    One of the most disappointing things for me is that no matter how much I bare my heart, or how true and genuine I am there are still people who would take it for granted and not appreciate it…