In Knowing Nothing, I Learned Everything


The Better Man Project is a look at my daily journey towards becoming a better man, as well as a glimpse into the valuable lessons I learn along the way.

Socrates once said, “True knowledge exists in knowing that you know nothing.” I, in fact, know nothing. But because I know nothing, I have given myself the best opportunity to learn from everything. That is why I am here in front of you today, and that is how The Better Man Project was born.

Several years ago, I sat on the bed in my small dorm room and realized that whatever path I was on was destined for disaster. My life lacked love, passion, and goals that could inspire me to achieve my true potential. I was desperately trying to contain an emotional tornado inside of me, and realized that the damage was reaching a point of irreversibility. The forces of change were knocking on my door, and if that call was left unanswered, my worst nightmare was waiting for me right around the corner.

I decided to try something new. The Better Man Project was originally intended to be a 30-day challenge to develop myself into a better man. Well, the project passed 30 days, 60 days, 90 days…and now I stand in front of you – the product of almost 1,000 days of personal cave diving into the depths of my heart – lantern in hand, searching for even more answers.

I am not here to give you a formula. I am not here to tell you that I have some secret for how to be happy. Instead, I am here to tell you why you should embark on a journey that will be marked by times of darkness, but that will in the end, result in one thing: light.

Each and every one of you will have a different path. No two will be the same, but they will all have something in common: the fact that you will be going against the grain and living a life that you are proud of. You will face your fears by moving against a culture that is designed to groom you to be just like everyone else. But it won’t be easy because you will have to overcome significant obstacles in order to achieve true happiness and realize your dreams. However, when you finally remove can’t from your vocabulary, you will develop into someone who finds motivation and inspiration within in order to create a vibrant future.

I can tell you that my journey will never end. My life has permanently changed course because of this project and I have truly learned how to be a man. And to all the women out there, my project isn’t just about men’s issues. I am confident that if you join me and open this book, you might just find out how to be a better person as well.

I promise you that this is going to be one awesome, wild ride.

Love. Passion. Never Quit.

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  • stormy1812
    March 27, 2014 at 7:00 pm

    I found your blog some time back and I loved the get up and take action attitude; it’s been a saving grace for me at times. You’re right about everyone’s journey being different – that’s because everyone’s life experiences are different and how we interpret them is different but that’s a good thing. I have started in on my own quest for happiness and in part due to finding your blog. I find that I agree with much of what you talk about but I just need to actually act upon it and it’s reached that moment of truth – to finally take that leap and make things happen. It definitely won’t be easy and there will be dark moments but I know it’ll be worth it. I suppose it’s better late than never (at 32 it feels a bit late for me lol but I suppose that’s not necessarily true – just feels true). Thanks for always providing a positive vibe! I’ll be sure to buy the book. 🙂

  • Kate @ Did That Just Happen?
    March 27, 2014 at 7:11 pm

    I love that you’ve acknowledged that you will always be learning and growing – that is such a great attitude!

  • 7atbest
    March 28, 2014 at 12:28 am

    I’m taking the chance.

  • Rajiv
    March 28, 2014 at 3:46 am

    Excellently said. 1,000 days and counting? Wow!

  • Jenny Dolan
    March 28, 2014 at 2:45 pm

    Hi Evan I’m really impressed with your site, and I too write about these topics. Two books I read recently that you might enjoy are The Myths of Happiness (all the things we think will make us happy actually don’t!) and How to Fail At Almost Everything and Still Win Big (my fav chapters in that book are about how goals don’t matter as much as systems, and Adams’ discussion of diet and exercise). I’m not into self-help per se. In fact, I’m very critical of that genre, but I applaud and support anyone who has the guts to define success on his or her own terms. I really look forward to exploring your site!

  • cwbybrick
    March 28, 2014 at 6:16 pm

    Followed & on my blog roll!

  • Finding Hope's Sunshine
    April 8, 2014 at 10:07 am

    Thank you for following my blog. You are so positive and inspire me to be better. Thank you Meghan