But really…what does it mean to truly love?
When I was younger, I had this very clouded idea of what love was. I thought love was everything I saw in the movies – an overly romantic person who knew exactly what to say and always had to overcome some sort of self-created conflict to get his or her love back. Maybe I had watched a few too many Hugh Grant movies. Nonetheless, I spent my young life loving in a pretty interesting way. The actions of a young confused adolescent manifested themselves in romantic gestures (not a bad thing), conflict (okay maybe a bad thing) and heartbreak (that always sucks). I thought that dating one person after another was the way it should be done. I guess I felt that consistency was what it was all about. Not really the case. I learned my lessons the hard way.
Love for me has grown into something much more profound. It’s about being someone’s rock, sometimes making significant sacrifices for the other person, forgiveness, willingness to adapt and adjust over time. But there’s more.
Love is about seeing an imperfect person perfectly.
It’s about not asking them to be anything but exactly who they are. It’s about learning about them every single day and not taking them for granted. And sometimes, love is making the hard decision and putting the heart of another over your own…even if that involves temporary pain.
This world can be harsh at times. It can force you into making some very hard decisions. But the thing is, if you live this life with love, you can live with those choices. You can grow from your mistakes and move forward. Don’t be mistaken in thinking that you are out of control of what is going on in your life. Sure there are circumstances that you possibly couldn’t have predicted. But don’t think that you don’t have control over your actions after that event. It has been said many times, life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.
Love your heart out.
It may break at times. There may be cracks. But you have to love anyways. People will take advantage of you – love anyways. You will get cheated, lied to, hurt – love always. It’s not that you won’t have grounds to shut it down…that’s not the concern. The concern is, if you shut it down, you can become very very cold inside. You heart will beat a little less strong. Believe me, I’ve been there. You have to keep giving the world your best even if it doesn’t give much to you back. You’re making much more of an impact than you think.
If I had to give you one piece of advice on Valentines Day it would be this – make a vow to treat the person in front of you as if they are the most important person in the world. Make them feel special – because they are. Make them feel loved – because even if they aren’t loving you back, they deserve it. Feed them positive energy – because they will most likely pay it forward. Give your best – the world needs it.
Oh, and, clap your hands if you feel like happiness is the truth
– Evan Sanders