It Would Be Spiritual Suicide

Not going after your dream is spiritual suicide.

It was fear that stopped me from taking my first steps.

It was fear that prevented me from committing to a path that I knew was going to be incredibly lonely but worthwhile. What I couldn’t say for a long time is “I can do that.” However, now I say “It’s possible.”

It’s possible to accomplish this dream.

It’s possible to be what I know I can be.

Will I have to change in order to accomplish this?

Yes. I will have to do things I have never done in order to become the man I want to be.

You can become comfortable. You can become stagnant. You heart can beat with less passion. But when this happens, expect normality.Expect nothing short of mediocrity.

If that’s where you want to live then fine…but for me, when I am looking into my heart and trying to find what I want to do with myself…there is no room for mediocrity.

never never never give up, winston churchill, inspirational quotes

It’s the small steps that climb mountains. It’s the daily efforts that are unseen by everyone that make all the difference in the world. Champions are made in the routine. The war is between you and yourself. Only you are responsible for the greatest amount of dedication you can bring forth. You have to give it your absolute all. You have to put your heart and soul towards it.

Bring forth your greatest asset – your spirit

Behind every fear is the person you want to be. But fear can paralyze us all. It can stop us from accomplishing what we ache to achieve. When fear is greater than our desire to see something succeed, we will never change. We will remain in tar. Your spirit will begin to flicker and soften.

Fear is a liar.

Fear will tell you no more than anything else in this world. Fear, the strongest type, comes from within. You can answer to it or you can be a slave to it. You can use it to motivate yourself or you can let it destroy your life drip by drip. Do not think for a second that the constant dripping of fear onto your dream is insignificant. An uncontrolled drip over time can put a hole in you.

It’s spiritual suicide to not go after the dream that has continued to remain strong in your mind despite the failures. You must answer the call. You must because you can. Without it, the dream will die with you and the world will never see what you could have truly offered it.

Take that dream out of your head and create it. Make it happen. You will be the happiest you have ever been.

– Evan Sanders, The Better Man Project


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  • nobles123
    February 2, 2014 at 1:17 pm

    True posts. Fear can paralyze us.

  • elizjamison
    February 2, 2014 at 1:33 pm

    I hear you. And it’s so stressful to consider just living a life of normalcy. But we have to define what is normal and what isn’t. For some, making a decent living is a dream because they grew up homeless or in a situation in which they never had stability.

    For me, I dream of the best-selling novel, finishing my dissertation and being “Dr.” etc.

    So I say go for the dream, whatever your dream may be.

    • thebettermanprojects
      February 2, 2014 at 1:34 pm

      absolutely! But only you can answer that! Only you can answer what mediocrity is to you.


  • aspiritsong
    February 2, 2014 at 1:43 pm

    Thank you for reminding me. I needed that.

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    February 2, 2014 at 2:06 pm

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  • andrioux
    February 2, 2014 at 2:07 pm

    “Do not think for a second that the constant dripping of fear onto your dream is insignificant. An uncontrolled drip over time can put a hole in you.”


  • M. R.
    February 2, 2014 at 2:11 pm

    But there are certain things that we have no control over. I, for instance, dream of my book’s being accepted generally, rather than by individuals (my publishers are shits, by and large). I’ve flogged my guts out and have reached a point where I cannot do any more. No loss of spirit: just an acknowledgement of defeat.

    • Paul van der Werff
      February 3, 2014 at 7:40 pm

      Dear M.R. If to have your books accepted into the mainstream is what is burning most brightly in your heart, then there is always a way. Don’t give up!! This lady decided that rather than continuing to battle with her publishers she would do it the way she wanted to…

      • M. R.
        February 3, 2014 at 7:43 pm

        Sorry, didn’t make myself clear. My book has been published already, by a recognised publisher. But they have no faith in it, and are doing nothing for its publicity. I’ve done everything I can, and am now out of ideas.I’m not seeking them from you: I’m just saying that there ARE things we have no control over.

        • Paul van der Werff
          February 3, 2014 at 9:09 pm

          They had enough faith in it to publish it in the first instance…

          And your readers have faith in it judging by the reviews.

          But regardless, congratulations to you on your success of sharing with the world what must have been a highly difficult topic to allow yourself to be so raw with.

          • M. R.
            February 3, 2014 at 9:54 pm

            And there’s the irony.
            No matter: thanks, Paul …

  • I'm the Mama - Get outta my way
    February 2, 2014 at 2:27 pm

    Love this post. A life without passion is mediocre.

  • darcybecker
    February 2, 2014 at 4:12 pm

    Reblogged this on an escape and commented:
    Absolutely love.

  • mil.o.e
    February 2, 2014 at 6:05 pm

    Thank you sharing this. It’s just what I needed lately.

  • Pink Ninjabi
    February 2, 2014 at 6:08 pm

    You give me so much courage. My biggest fear is going beyond a simple crush on this guy at the gym for the past year and actually making more of an effort, to even just be open to him. My doubt weighs a whole in my heart. Your reminder drips hope in instead. Thank you.

  • SHE SAY.....HE SAY
    February 2, 2014 at 6:48 pm

    …thank u….fa just pulling me up off the ground…

    *the power of words*

  • Tee
    February 2, 2014 at 9:59 pm

    My courages seems to wax and wane. I often feel as though I’ve hit pause instead of play.

  • Rajiv
    February 3, 2014 at 1:07 am

    Very true. I am actually discussing the paralyzing effect of fear these days. That, which prevents us from seeing and moving forward

  • Jose
    February 3, 2014 at 4:36 am

    Beautiful and inspiring. Thank you for sharing that with us.

  • :Hayat Amiree
    February 3, 2014 at 5:20 am

    well written

  • mickiwrites
    February 3, 2014 at 7:59 am

    So true.

  • Abi
    February 3, 2014 at 10:02 am

    Thank you! I needed to be reminded…..

  • iamforchange
    February 3, 2014 at 12:53 pm

    This is my favorite post I have read of yours thus far… Thanks for sharing it! 🙂

  • Theresa
    February 3, 2014 at 3:21 pm

    Fascinating take on this topic…well done!

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  • Anne Lene
    February 4, 2014 at 9:30 am

    Powerful, and such a great reminder.

    Your powerful words: “Do not think for a second that the constant dripping of fear onto your dream is insignificant. An uncontrolled drip over time can put a hole in you.”

    Reminds me of the saying “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself’.
    I believe we should be afraid of being afraid. Being “constantly” afraid, we will not have the power to conquer many of our obstacles.

    Thank you for inspiring…

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    February 9, 2014 at 7:23 pm

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    Look fear in the eyes, do not let it cripple your dreams!

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