Take It From Someone Who Knows

Thera are so many things to be scared of in this life.

Yep. That about sums it up right?

At the same time, we know in our minds that we know that there are so many things to enjoy about the time we spend here. We see others who have achieved dreams, we look to the starts and wonder what is it like to fly among them, we see those in love and wonder how they did it. We wonder a lot. We what if a lot. We dream – and how could you not when you see what you want right in front of your eyes.

We have those moments when we close our eyes and  get goosebumps every time we think about opening them to the life we have dreamed of. That’s when you know you are really alive. When you are creating every moment of the day because you feel like you have control over yourself. And isn’t that the greatest obstacle? The fight that rages within the self?

I can testify to how hard it can be to have big goals and dreams and watch them float by when your spending your energy battling the demons inside. There comes a point however, where you have to decide what is more worth it: being comfortable or achieving something great. It takes some guts to admit to yourself that the reason why you don’t have what you wished for is because you were more concerned being comfortable in the place you were than sacrificing.


If you want it, and you don’t have it currently, you are going to have to make some sacrifices.

If you want to have a fiery passionate life, and you don’t have one right now…there are going to have to be some changes. YOU are going to have to make them. No one else is responsible for what is going on in your life or what you decide to do. You are responsible for your past, present, and future. Because at the end of the day, you close your eyes. No one else does it for you.

And lastly…it all breaks down to one thing: loving people and life as much as possible. We can get caught up in what other people say and what the best piece of advice is, but if you don’t actually live life you are going to spend time imitating everyone else and you end up a product of other people – not of your own wishes. You need to do what is going to make you happy and what will make you into the best individual possible. If you want to ask him/her out on a date – ask. If you want to text them one day after you had your date – do it. Society has all these standards and rules for how things should be done. And people actually take this advice! Look at society first and ask, “Do I want that for myself?” Trust me, when you find the right people in your life, you can just act like yourself and not have to worry about impressing anyone. They are there for you and believe in you.

Do you. That doesn’t mean forget about other people, but you truly can’t be there for others in the largest capacity possible if you can’t be there for yourself. Food for thought.

– Evan Sanders

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  • scottishmomus
    October 15, 2013 at 2:00 pm

    Wise words.x

  • shoedooo
    October 15, 2013 at 2:11 pm

    I see you are just as big of a Ryan Leslie fan as I am. Keep posting great music!!

  • stormy1812
    October 15, 2013 at 5:28 pm

    I think the best part is the last – it’s so true as they say – you must love yourself before you can love others so it seems that would apply to a grander scheme also. Well said! 🙂

  • The Savvy Sister
    October 15, 2013 at 6:35 pm

    I think I like you.

  • Wanderlushh
    October 16, 2013 at 2:57 am

    Nice posts! If your dreams don’t scare you, they’re not big enough! Thanks for the motivation.

  • Monicle
    October 16, 2013 at 5:51 am

    well said. so many people complain about their lives and don’t realize they are making that choice everyday.

  • thelovelyphotog
    October 16, 2013 at 9:50 am

    I love Ryan Leslie! He is a musical genius! Great post as well !

  • risingontheroad
    October 16, 2013 at 2:00 pm

    ‘Do you’ so simple and so spot on.

  • fshade
    October 17, 2013 at 3:48 am

    Reblogged this on holisticlivingforyp.

  • Inside the Mind of Isadora
    October 18, 2013 at 7:06 am

    I have a word a month I write about. My word for October is Dream.
    I believe we should never stop dreaming. Nice post …

  • Rita Poynor
    October 22, 2013 at 7:20 am

    Authenticity is so liberating! Being on a stage 24-7 is so tiring and unfulfilling.

  • Shoes Summerfield
    October 29, 2013 at 6:07 am

    Absolutely LOVE this post. Truly enjoy your blog. Thank you for your writings!!

  • Alison F. Oatis
    June 27, 2015 at 9:12 pm

    I was thinking about this just yesterday. So I screwed up my intire life,, am I going to sit here for the rest of it and watch it pass day by day, hour by hour, I must be depressed, another excuse! ! What am I so afraid of? Is the Boogie Man going to get me? Everone has passed away, am I just waiting to die too!! I had cancer once, maybe it’s coming back! Man, I am a dreadful mess.