Dream Date


I sit before you a very lucky man. And I have to tell you, I am so thankful for everything I have and the opportunities that I have been given. I am healthy, young, strong-willed and ready. These are gifts. Gifts that shouldn’t ever be overlooked.

I took some time to settle into downtown Los Angeles, a whole new world in itself. My work, this place, the people, the smells….are all new. That list goes on endlessly really. But there are things that do not change about you when you change your entire life. In fact, there are things that will always stick with you no matter what. Tonight I want to talk about dreams.

If your dreams don’t scare the shit out of you, well, they just aren’t big enough. I believe however that the bigger you dream the longer it takes to accept these dreams. There’s a courting process. You go on your first date with your dreams when you decide to pick them up and there’s a time period when you are a bit uncomfortable with the dream across from you because you don’t know it too well. You kinda stare at each other, flirt a little bit, get settled in, and if it’s right, you commit. And isn’t that the word that makes all the magic in the world happen. Commitment. Commitment to something means that you only accept results. Interest means you dabble with it, you know, stick your toe in the water once in a while.

And I will come out and say it. I am committed to writing The Better Man Project for the rest of my life, but everything else was an interest to me. I was interested in doing video blogs. I was interested in posting pictures as inspiration for people. There were a lot of things that I was interested in, and as a consequence, sometimes they would happen, and sometimes they wouldn’t.

So let me share with you my dreams – the ones sitting across from me, looking beautiful at the dinner table.

My dream looks like this. Me, Evan Sanders, before I turn 30 stands before you as the #1 motivational speaker in the world, who is not just one of the best motivators out there, but a man who is in shape (ridiculously in shape), lives very comfortably, travels the world speaking to people of all different types, runs a foundation for social good, spends time helping underprivileged children and inspiring their dreams, writing books, becoming a master in positive psychology, has millions of  followers who believe in the message I am professing. There are of course other parts to the dream, but that’s the meat of it. For the longest of time I had been staring at this dream seeing how beautiful it is, but I forgot to talk! I forgot to say something or do something. I just sat there with this dumb smile on my face. It’s time to wink at it.

I am going to do my best to show you. Of course I will write about the process along the way, but I really want to show you the only thing that really matters in relation to getting things done: results. And I will close on this. Henry Ford once said, “You can’t build a reputation on what you are going to do.” Amen. Let’s go.

– Evan Sanders

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  • arrowtarget
    September 19, 2013 at 7:45 pm

    Reblogged this on huntprayerpoems.

  • Rainbow Lightning Woman
    September 19, 2013 at 7:50 pm

    Blessings to you

  • Elizabeth Cardenas
    September 19, 2013 at 7:59 pm

    This inspired me to write my own “dream date.” Gracias.

  • Lady Marian Lancaster
    September 19, 2013 at 8:21 pm

    Good luck! Keep believing, and always be positive and grateful!
    I’m sure, God will always be there for you. 🙂

  • Amber
    September 19, 2013 at 8:56 pm

    Puts things into perspective for sure. Tha is for sharing often!

  • hadassaab
    September 20, 2013 at 12:07 am

    Reblogged this on hadassaab.

  • Lady Marian Lancaster
    September 20, 2013 at 12:32 am

    Reblogged this on Kismet ~ Everything happens for a reason and commented:
    Dream Date, this is so amazing, I decided to try this too and post my result later or tomorrow. Have a day or night! 🙂

  • Preston Byrd
    September 20, 2013 at 2:28 am

    Reblogged this on Preston Byrd and commented:
    Love it! Thanks for sharing! ~Preston Byrd

  • 5thshadeofmist
    September 20, 2013 at 4:19 am

    Yes! inspiring, to say the least. Good luck!

  • sardeneaux
    September 20, 2013 at 5:18 am

    Very well said I would say best wishes on your endeavor but that should be irrelevant to a committed individual so instead I will say swift success. Thanks for sharing and I love you.

  • Trit
    September 20, 2013 at 7:41 am

    In the business world, this is called your Big Hairy Audacious Goal, and it is what drives you and motivates you. We all need this wherever and whoever we are! Thank you for this!

  • Chocolate Covered Race Medals
    September 20, 2013 at 9:07 am

    i love the perspective 🙂 good luck with everything. you know we’re all here following!

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  • intrepidjane
    September 20, 2013 at 12:26 pm

    Inspiring! Here’s hoping that our sons embrace life like this!

  • hanktango
    September 20, 2013 at 7:07 pm

    This was a good read, no doubt about it… but it didn’t give me what I would want from a ‘Better man-project’ due to one thing… which is this (direct quote;)

    “There’s a courting process. You go on your first date with your dreams when you decide to pick them up and there’s a time period when you are a bit uncomfortable with the dream across from you because you don’t know it too well. You kinda stare at each other, flirt a little bit, get settled in, and if it’s right, you commit.”….

    To me, this just feels like a kindergarten-approach to life, and especially toward dreams. As a man that dwells solely in his quest to achieve his dreams, I’d say this; If you want to reach your dreams, you have to be willing to stand up for them. You have to be willing to fight for them. You have to be willing to acknowledge them. But most of all, you have to ACCEPT them as a part of you. You are no more than what you dream of, because the thing you dream of is YOURSELF!

    • thebettermanprojects
      September 21, 2013 at 5:22 pm

      You certainly do have a point, and I understand what you are saying completely. However, to call it a kindergarten-approach is a little heavy. The entire piece is about looking at a beautiful dream across from you. Sometimes, dreams are so big you don’t know what to do with them right off the bat. I am sure that has happened to you. I have written hundreds of pieces about attacking your dreams with vigor and passion, but with the new, there is always an adjustment period. But well done with you comment you certainly made me think.

      All the best. Look forward to hearing more thoughts like that from you.


  • ingesaunders
    September 23, 2013 at 10:30 am

    This was an inspiring read, just as I was taking a break from my manuscript…Becoming an author was and still is a huge dream of mine. Being the first in a family of professionals to venture out in the ‘big bad world of publishing’, sure takes a good hard sober look at your dream and then finding the right sources and connections to point you in the right direction. Dreams are not simple to attain. I agree with you, if they are then in my opinion they aren’t big enough…I don’t know, maybe the dream is that scary because it impacts/influences other people’s lives & is so dependent on others for it’s success…if your dream is to only get married, have kids & a good family life (just using it as an example folks) then it is just up to you. In this case you determine the outcome. But grandiose dreams are not just up to you…you are definitely part of it, but if the world doesn’t ‘buy’ your dream…well *smile* Let’s not go there. I’m a romantic. I like to believe that dreams do come true *grin* I am after all a signed author with my first book coming out next year ( and no I’m not bragging) just saying I’m taking on the ‘big bad world of publishing’ one book at a time. All the best. Inge.

  • Speed Dating Los Angeles
    October 6, 2013 at 8:21 am

    I loved reading this. Very inspiring. Good luck for you!!