Life's Orchestra

Our lives morph, shift, melt and grow in one fluid perfect orchestra or action and inaction. There is a beautiful dance of events that occur throughout the years that brings us knowledge, experience, and most important of all – wisdom. We find ourselves. We lose ourselves. We develop into new people and we retract back into the persona of old. We dream big. We suffer at the hands of others and at the power of our minds. But that is living. The pursuit of something worthy over a period of time, never forgetting that we do not create simply for ourselves, but for whatever is above us. We spend our time on the planet as a servant for the greater good, for others, and for the heavens.

Life began a few years ago for me in August. I learned something so incredibly important that it changed my life forever. The moment I learned that my past, the inescapable shadow that always followed me, was a place that I didn’t have to live…my world opened up. But that moment only came after a concept that was even more important. You, and only you, are responsible for your life. When you take responsibility for everything that you do, everything you have done, the decisions you make, the things you say to people, and your actions every single day…then, you can truly live free of your past. Your past becomes the foundation in which you build your life upon. It truly never goes away. However, it does stop owning you.


The people who love you are the ones that know everything about you and still stick around. The ones that have been there through everything and still serve as the rock you can lean on when your life is messy at times. They are not there because it is convenient. In fact, it is often the most inconvenient thing in the world to be someones rock. The hours are crappy, the emotions run high, and often times you feel exhausted after whatever happened is done. But that’s not the point. You aren’t there because it’s convenient for you. You are there because of something much more powerful at play: love for another. And that overwhelms any other card on the table.

Dance to the music of life. If you spend so much time focusing on the instruments that aren’t there, you miss out on the song that is playing.

– Evan Sanders

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  • Reset Parenting
    August 22, 2013 at 12:29 am

    What a wonderful piece of writing. 🙂

  • thewindowflower
    August 22, 2013 at 1:13 am

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  • teddytoneva
    August 22, 2013 at 1:59 am

    Very inspiring and touching. Thank you for sharing 🙂

    • thebettermanprojects
      August 24, 2013 at 2:29 pm

      Tell me what you liked! 🙂

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      • teddytoneva
        August 25, 2013 at 1:09 am

        I liked that its edgy and that it tells a truth that a lot of people don’t dare admit to themselves. ‘Dance to the music of life’ – love that bit!

  • Rajiv
    August 22, 2013 at 3:37 am

    I agree with this, Wonderful post!

  • harulawordsthatserve
    August 22, 2013 at 4:23 am

    This is wonderful, and I LOVE the Rumi quote:-)

  • susannj30
    August 22, 2013 at 4:44 am

    Awesome work you are an amazing inspire me to. to Be a better woman and to get better at my writing which I wish to share with the world,,thank you for the follow..I followed you right back and shared some thoughts on your Facebook and shared your blog on mine..many blessings to you..Susan

    • thebettermanprojects
      August 24, 2013 at 2:32 pm

      That inspire the hell out of me. I know that if I am helping other people share their hearts and minds with the world then I am doing my job. That is incredible. Thank you so much Susan

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  • wandrisk
    August 22, 2013 at 5:43 am

    hmm.. i seem to have been so much more to others that i seem to have been no help to myself.. =P but i love your thoughts.. i surely wish and hope and pray that i could have the same perspective and hope and inspiration that you have.. nice work.. keep it up =)

  • Soma Mukherjee
    August 22, 2013 at 6:38 am

    Beautiful ♥

  • pinkeyp
    August 22, 2013 at 7:01 am

    Your post is as good as a therapy session, only better written. THANKS

  • Dadicus Grinch
    August 22, 2013 at 7:21 am

    This summarizes so much of my journey this past decade. “Your past becomes the foundation in which you build your life upon. It truly never goes away. However, it does stop owning you.” This is the key to a meaningful life–notice I did not say “happy”. The pursuit of happiness can become an albatross–it weighs us down rather than frees us. Thank you for reminding me of the value of our pasts.

    • thebettermanprojects
      August 24, 2013 at 2:39 pm


      Your second to last sentence about the albatross is incredible. I might just blog about that. Hope all is well and look forward to hearing more from you.

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  • Rebecca Sloan
    August 22, 2013 at 10:08 am

    Thanks for posting something so beautifully written that expresses the essence of my life. I will share this with some people I love who are struggling with the effect of things not done, decisions not made, time seemingly gone by without capturing the moment.

    • thebettermanprojects
      August 24, 2013 at 2:42 pm

      You’re welcome Rebecca! And thank you so much for sharing. It is incredible for me to be hearing from people who really appreciate my work. I hope all is well.

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  • Chocolate Covered Race Medals
    August 22, 2013 at 10:38 am

    Very inspiring. So glad you’re willing to share your story with all of us!

  • Sara Ann
    August 22, 2013 at 11:21 am

    Loves. Thanks Evan. 🙂

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    August 22, 2013 at 12:32 pm

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    August 22, 2013 at 2:59 pm

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  • ahmedfraih
    August 23, 2013 at 5:52 am

    what an article!! I always say so, you’re the only one responsible for your life and nobody ever will be able to alter its path unless you let others interfere. Your decisions are yours and you have to live by them, in my opinion, it’s what it takes to be a man, a real man.. Thanks for the great article, it hit on my chord.

    • thebettermanprojects
      August 24, 2013 at 2:43 pm

      You are absolutely right. You have to be responsible for your life. You are the only one left at the end of the day. Thank you for solidifying what I was saying.

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