Fallen Angels

There is nothing more lost than a confused heart. You’re head has a  tendency to overcomplicate things, but when your heart is at play, you can truly lose yourself. It happens. We fall. We fall hard. Sometimes, it takes a good fall to truly understand where you stand.


What if all the words that were ever uttered out of your mouth were written on your skin? Would you hide your skin with clothes or would you be proud of the lines flowing over your skin like water in the ocean. There would be moments of crashing and yet, at the same time, there would be those times of stillness and peace. Those words will always be there. They will never be lost or gone. Permanently inscribed on your skin. If this was the case, what would you start to write today?



Things happen in our lives that we aren’t exactly proud of how they turned out. Sometimes the best of intentions get lost in the heat of it all and your plan gets chewed to pieces. It has become clear to me that kindness is the purest value to live by. In a world where kindness seems to be the last thing that is free, it becomes even more important to be the most loving and caring person out there. To have arms that extend open past what is comfortable and to truly feel what others feel. I know this in my heart to be true. At times, I have lost sight of that. At times, I have acted otherwise. It is impossible to go through life without hurting others. If you try to be liked by everyone and avoid trouble then you end up being a shell of a real person. We will hurt those that we love the most. It will happen to each of us. Maybe a confused heart causes this…maybe a lack of experience or pain…but in the end it’s about what we do to make things right that matters.


It’s time for me to let some things go. Sometimes we don’t even know we are holding them inside until they suddenly jump out. We don’t always receive the reasons for why it happens that way, but in the end, we always get the lesson. Stay true to yourself even during the harshest of times. When someone is trying to bring you down, don’t lose your class. There are things to fight for in this world, but there are significantly more things not to fight for. I will think about what happened tonight for a while longer because it deserves to be handled with care. I will correct the wrongs. But I know that I will learn. And I know it wont happen again.

– Evan Sanders

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  • The Brighter Side of 40
    August 19, 2013 at 11:11 pm

    Great post, @ a time in my life that is riddled with a confused heart. Thank you.

    • thebettermanprojects
      August 24, 2013 at 2:16 pm

      So great to hear. I love it when my work is timely for people 🙂

  • Zsa Zsa Annisa
    August 19, 2013 at 11:34 pm

    Reblogged this on Love, Loss & Messed Up Chances and commented:
    the head, the heart and what’s meant to be.

  • Elise
    August 20, 2013 at 2:15 am

    Thank you for your post today. Your words could be mine. But today, not yesterday, today I’ll write: I made it..!!

    I have just made it, this morning. And what I made was just being myself – made up my mind what is good for me, not what others think is good for me and my life.

    And most important – I am proud..!!

    • thebettermanprojects
      August 24, 2013 at 2:17 pm

      That’s the most important thing! Being proud of yourself. Ego causes mistakes in judgement, but pride makes you feel warm inside. Have a fantastic day

  • safi4775
    August 20, 2013 at 2:16 am

    May whatever happened bring you clarity with grace

  • klove
    August 20, 2013 at 2:45 am

    Very eloquently put.
    This hit home to me as I am just in the middle of writing out something of a similar nature.

    I have learnt that being liked isn’t as important or necessary as being true to and Loving your self.

    Big love

    • thebettermanprojects
      August 24, 2013 at 2:18 pm

      Crazy how things happen like that! And you are right on target with loving yourself vs. trying to be liked.

      • klove
        August 28, 2013 at 10:02 am

        So true!

        Keep sharing!

        I love your blog. You always seem to know what I need to hear!

        I tried to be your book but it seems to be only available in the US?

        Big Love

        • thebettermanprojects
          August 28, 2013 at 1:14 pm

          Hmm that is strange? It is on iTunes, Amazon, Kobo, Barnes and Noble…the works! Hope that helps!

          • klove
            August 30, 2013 at 3:38 pm

            I will try amazon again.
            Big Love

  • realityinprogress
    August 20, 2013 at 3:27 am

    Wonderful post so full of simple wisdom. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I completely agree with them.
    ~ Charlotte

  • Shoaib Pervaiz
    August 20, 2013 at 3:37 am

    Brilliant. Needed to read something like this. Thanks.

  • faeangel
    August 20, 2013 at 4:39 am

    I loved this. I don’t really know what else to say, so instead, I’ll send you a hug!

  • rebuildingholly
    August 20, 2013 at 4:42 am

    Eloquent…love this post. And you provided the absolute perfect soundtrack: Trevor Hall brings a lot of peace to my days.

  • Tee
    August 20, 2013 at 5:18 am

    Wow. I really needed this post. My heart is so troubled and heavy and confused and wounded and vulnerable. This is a post I will revisit. Thanks. Sometimes I wish I had a personal assistant who could interpret the crazy things that I feel and think.

    • thebettermanprojects
      August 24, 2013 at 2:21 pm

      Don’t worry about being vulnerable. That is where you really start to learn about yourself. Check out Brene Brown’s video on vulnerability. Changed my life.

      • Tee
        August 24, 2013 at 3:00 pm

        Thank you for the info. I will do that!

  • annibloggt
    August 20, 2013 at 5:32 am

    like always – pure and so well-written. I have reblogged a short article from guy finley, about releasing yourself from painful resistance to the lessons of life – it might be that you ilke it as much as I do.
    thanks for sharing your thoughts, I feel always so much better and more in tune with myself & the world, after reading your blog.

    • thebettermanprojects
      August 24, 2013 at 2:21 pm

      I will check that post out! I love reading other peoples interesting work.

  • Dan_Dlion
    August 20, 2013 at 5:56 am

    Reblogged this on Outside The Fish Bowl and commented:
    Something to think about….

    • thebettermanprojects
      August 24, 2013 at 2:21 pm

      Thanks for the reblog

      • Dan_Dlion
        August 24, 2013 at 6:21 pm

        No problem. It was an excellent post.

  • K
    August 20, 2013 at 6:12 am

    Thank you for your sincerity. Sending love!

    • thebettermanprojects
      August 24, 2013 at 2:21 pm

      The love is received! So much thanks

      • K
        August 26, 2013 at 5:48 am

        🙂 You’re amazing, Evan!

  • tkrappwrites
    August 20, 2013 at 6:19 am

    Always writing something that catches my attention 🙂 Thank you!

    • thebettermanprojects
      August 24, 2013 at 2:22 pm

      Hopefully I can keep you coming back! Thanks for the support.

      • tkrappwrites
        September 2, 2013 at 6:49 pm

        I’m always checking something of yours out, either here on on FB…or twitter. LOL!

  • ~Felicia~
    August 20, 2013 at 8:20 am

    Wow… Evan~ you constantly blow my mind with your thoughts. My words would be 3D. My skin pushed and pulled by the ink of my life. My smiles and tears captured in short lived sentences with bright colors. Awesome post.


  • Chocolate Covered Race Medals
    August 20, 2013 at 9:01 am

    Wow — thank you for sharing this with us!

  • Akeshia
    August 20, 2013 at 10:12 am

    This is the first blog post I have read in a long time and it really made me stop and think. Also I loved the song, it’s the first time i’ve heard it. Thanks for following me I have followed back, I should be back to blogging properly soon 🙂 I really like this concept of a blog. Keep it up

    • thebettermanprojects
      August 24, 2013 at 2:24 pm

      Thank you so much for the support. I am glad that I was the first you have read in a long time. I would love to know what you liked about the post so much.

      • Akeshia
        August 26, 2013 at 2:20 am

        I loved the part where you say imagine if everything that we ever said was tattooed onto us and would we be embarrassed and hide it. It really makes you think about the way you speak to and treat other people.

  • Greatness Via Passion
    August 20, 2013 at 11:29 am

    Love your work mate!

  • kellywernex
    August 21, 2013 at 6:34 am

    Thanks for making me reflect on my own life.

    • thebettermanprojects
      August 24, 2013 at 2:25 pm

      I didn’t make you do anything 🙂 That’s all you. Have a great day

  • Marsha J. O'Brien
    August 21, 2013 at 9:49 am

    Excellent and absolutely the truth. Great job.

    • thebettermanprojects
      August 24, 2013 at 2:25 pm

      Thanks Marsha! Great to see a comment from you. Hope you are well.

  • Unconsciousmess Administrator
    August 22, 2013 at 12:32 pm

    Reblogged this on Unconsciousmess.

  • rocket
    September 5, 2013 at 9:20 am

    Kindness will change the world. We just need to see it as a strength not a weakness, as most still do. Your words give me hope. I love the image in my head of words on skin. It really makes you think about all the offhanded comments that are so unnecessary in life. Great job!

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    September 8, 2013 at 11:36 am

    Spot on!

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