The Better Man Project

Day (465) – Be A Little Bit Different

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“If you don’t ask yourself on occasion ‘What the hell am I actually doing?’ I’m not certain your actually living.” – Megan Dills

I found the quote above on Twitter tonight and it got me thinking. I was going to write an interesting post titled “When Your Life Hindenburg’s” this evening, but in light of what has gone in in the past few hours, I have changed my mind.

I watched the Heat win the NBA championship tonight. Im not a huge basketball fan but I do appreciate inspiring moments. And as always, my favorite part of the game is actually after it is over – listening to players talk. Who cares if many of them are not that eloquent. I feel like people use that as an excuse to put them down and almost dim the glow of their achievements. Anyways…I listened, and listened hard to what James said when the reporter asked him after the game -What do you have to say to all those people who talk about you or doubt you etc – and James responded perfectly, “I can’t worry about what everyone says about me.”

Everyone around me is talking about how great the game was and I was just sitting there thinking about those words. And the moment came – “It’s true” I said to myself…and went on into the other room to shower. As I stood there in the shower I thought more and more about what he had said and concepts along the lines of the quote above from Dills. “What the hell am I actually doing?” It dawned on me that there have been many times in my life that I have done, or not done, something because of what other people thought or would think. I don’t really think this is a way that I can run my life anymore. And that is when I came across the Schwarzenegger quote.

I truly believe that you have to make a plan and stick to (with positive modifications along the way) at all costs. Because if you never follow through all the way then you will never know what you could have actually been. Of course there will be criticism along the way but in the end you really do have to listen to yourself and the voice inside you. No one else is going to live your life. They may try…but at the end of the day you are the only one that peaces out when it’s your time to go. So make something memorable.

Tap into that voice inside and understand what it is trying to tell you. Often times you have to quiet down everything around you to hear it, but eventually it will become loud and clear. “I need to do this” becomes something that you can’t avoid or even sabotage anymore because your body is getting pulled, like a strong rip-tide, in the direction of where you want to go. So just release all the doubts and insecurities and go with it. It will be the ride of your life.

- Evan Sanders

15 Comments

  1. June 26, 2013

    Reblogged this on MsLeeSnob and commented:
    “The worst thing I could be is the same as everyone else.”

    Nice to hear right?It’s true though. But sometimes it’s hard to be the weird one. Sometimes I think of how easier my life would be if I would just follow what everyone else is doing. I bet it’s a hell lot more convenient than this. But at the end of the day I still choose to be the outcast and the weird one than be one of them.

    Just like a friend once said…I like weird. Weird is good.

  2. June 24, 2013

    Reblogged this on etherealplume.

  3. June 24, 2013

    “Everything popular is wrong.” Oscar Wilde.

  4. June 23, 2013

    Absolutely needed this encouragement as I walk along my journey. Thank you.

  5. June 23, 2013

    i always love your postings, but this one has been alive in me this entire week!

  6. June 22, 2013

    Sometimes, one has to put off that things they believe they’re meant to do, in order to support a family that requires a stable income. I’ve had to wait a long time, but I’m doing what I wanted from the very beginning.

  7. June 22, 2013

    Reblogged this on Adventures of an Awkward Black Girl and commented:
    There’s only one you, don’t waste your time fitting the mould of someone else.

  8. June 22, 2013

    I’m on the ride of my life at the moment. The hardest part was to be able quiet down everything else to be able to hear. That took 18 months. I haven’t even made it out past the break yet but…..

  9. June 21, 2013

    Reblogged this on DrGretchenTorbertPhD and commented:
    Love this!

  10. June 21, 2013

    What is so easy to forget in today’s society is that we were all born unique – the battle many of us face day to day is fighting who we are meant to be. One of our basic human desires is love and acceptance yet we forget that we also need to love and accept who we ourselves are.

    It will take time, but wake up each day and remind yourself just to be yourself and you’ll be amazed at how many worries, anxieties and in my case, depressive thoughts, will begin to disappear!

  11. June 21, 2013

    I needed this today. Thank you so much for reaching inside yourself and sharing!

  12. June 21, 2013

    Loved this! Soooo true, Evan. Thank you!

  13. June 21, 2013

    Incredible journey ….amazing self-realizations here Evan. Keep on trucking and keep sharing!

  14. June 21, 2013

    YES…live life with no regrets!! :D :D Great post :)

  15. June 21, 2013

    SO BEAUTIFUL BOTH LOOK AND CONTENTS WISE.

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