How To Kick The Shit Out Of Fear


“Anything I’ve ever done that ultimately was worthwhile initially scared me to death.” – Betty Bender

“”It was high counsel that I once heard given to a young person, “Always do what you are afraid to do.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“I’m not afraid of storms, for I’m learning how to sail my ship.” – Louisa May Alcott


You know, that paralyzing feeling that stops you in your tracks. I can’t tell you how many times I have been caught in this bear trap. But fear comes in many different shapes and sizes. It’s not always the person ready to run across the battlefield to save a brother in arms – in fact, it rarely is. For most of us, it’s facing daily challenges and obstacles. And for me, tonight, I want to talk about facing your potential. Your goals, future, and dreams. It’s easy to face fear for a day – but what about a week…a month…a year?

So most of us aren’t ripped Spartans

But that’s not the point. Today is about how to kick the sh*t out of fear. Straight and simple…and I’m going to do something I rarely do…I’m going to write down my method. Your mind can play pretty big tricks on you – and add in all the parasites (habits) that have been feeding on your weaknesses and sprinkle on some good ole naysayer talk and you have yourself a pretty wicked situation going on in your dome. Trust me, it’s not always because you are weak that you are feeling fearful. In fact, often of times the enemy is dug in your head that you just can’t seem to find the advantage. Call forth your artillery.

Write it all down

Put it on paper. I promise you – problems in the head often get majorly magnified, but once you put it down on paper, they become much smaller than you thought. Write out your complaints on the left side of the paper…draw an arrow across the paper for each complaint…and on the ride side of the paper create an action plan to solve each complaint. So maybe your uncle is being a complete jackass – are you going to let it go or are you going to do something about it? One or the other – because if you let the complaint sit with you long enough…it will end up burying itself deep in your mind and you will have one hell of a time getting it out. Think of trying to scrape barnacles off a boat with your bare hands.

Daily Goals

The first thing I do when I wake up is get to a pad of paper and write out my plan + goals for the day. I promise you, there is no better feeling than creating a plan and then working it. Once you nail your daily goals – then move to weekly goals…monthly goals…yearly goals and so on. I love goal setting. I mean…I  can talk goals all day with you – but it becomes really easy to write out 5 year and 10 year goals…I mean shoot even one year goals and then forget about them. Sure you can put them in a place where they are visible and you can see them every day, but many of us have so many goals that we want to accomplish that this can be overwhelming. So what the hell do you do?

Take your goals – split them up into monthly goals – then create weekly and daily checklists

It’s a lot of work. Trust me…but this IS your life! And these are the things you are really passionate about – so why not do what it takes to actually get your goals done? The mentality that has brought me to disaster a great deal of the time is, “Okay…so I have a goal to run 100 miles a month…Go.” Maybe you will start running on a good schedule the first week or so…but once life “lives” you, which it certainly always does, you are going to get thrown off, miss miles, and then at the end of the month be confronted with a 50 mile run because you had no plan. Feel me on this analogy? Plan the work…work the plan.

No General ever went to war without a battle plan (except for Custer…that didn’t pan out)

Celebrate – when you have something to celebrate. It’s really easy to go out drinking…partying…eating improperly etc (if your goal is food related) when you have been doing a good job. This has to be part of the plan. Plan your cheating. That’s right. Plan that out and give yourself a break once in a while – but write it down and make sure it’s part of the total equation. And celebrate when you have a major victory…it makes it that much more fun.

Attitude – and no other quote can say it better than the one I am going to end with tonight. Get after it – go be everything you have always wanted to be – plan it out – work the plan – and be a badass. Goodnight.

-Evan Sanders

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  • yiyime
    May 30, 2013 at 9:12 pm

    enjoy this post very much

  • xnannerz
    May 30, 2013 at 9:33 pm

    relates to so much of what’s going on in my life

  • Carrie Lange
    May 30, 2013 at 9:34 pm

    ooh, ooh, I LOVE making lists! great suggestions, thank you 😉

  • allmixtips
    May 30, 2013 at 10:13 pm

    Reblogged this on allmixtips's and commented:
    meaningful life makes achievements easy

  • mynihility
    May 30, 2013 at 10:19 pm

    Making lists really helps. Nice post. 🙂

    • thebettermanprojects
      June 9, 2013 at 2:01 pm

      It helps so much. It just keeps you really organized and gives you the ability to work like a machine and get everything done in a day.

      Rub elbows with me on the FB page

  • Chelsea Lynn
    May 31, 2013 at 10:09 am

    Awesome! Thanks!

  • kriswolfe
    May 31, 2013 at 4:18 pm

    Great read and great ideas!

  • kyrian777
    June 1, 2013 at 10:09 am

    Thanks for sharing this!

  • Christina Lawrence
    June 3, 2013 at 11:59 am

    This is so true, thanks for this post. Especially the part about writing things down and setting goals. Sometimes we need reminding…

  • stormy1812
    June 3, 2013 at 2:55 pm

    a great plan! i have been on the verge of doing this; have even written down a daily schedule, etc., – have yet to follow through lol but that is the goal. i totally agree with long term and short term goals. my thought was first decide my long term goals – then set short term goals that will lead to accomplishing those long term goals. i even set some deadlines for myself lol again hasn’t quite worked yet but it will happen. seems to me part of the deal must be the person has to be ready – this may be a poor analogy but the first thing that comes to mind is – a drunk person; he must first recognize he has a problem and then be ready to actually take it on or it won’t ever be fixed. then come the classes and making progress to sobriety. i may keep coming back to this to help remind myself of my goals and i am the only one who can make it happen. thanks for sharing! 🙂

  • katz2251
    June 4, 2013 at 11:12 am

    This is great! I think I could use a lot of this info to help beat procrastination on my writing. Thank you!